THIS is at the root cause of so many misinterpretations we make of other people. Then we talk about it to others. That magnifies it. We think we know someone’s intent, agenda or whatever actions against us that we think we are accurately seeing in them. Truth is it exists in our feeling-thought-feeling-thought personal bubble and we are seeing our own reflection; an Infinite Do Loop…that sometimes is keeping us stuck.
Your Perspective Filters on Life
Whenever we have been thinking badly of our self in some way, the way we see the world and others changes. Our perspective changes based on our mood, expectations of/from others known/unknown desired/undesired, beliefs, walls, values and more. We see life through all of these and more filters that distort the true reality. Then we may be easily swayed by others which means we take on their life filters. Soon our perception of reality may resemble looking through a kaleidoscope; a fragmented representation of the true reality.
The Comfort Zone
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Each of us has/had some inner feelings we do not like that keeps reoccurring
At times in life we are driven by an inner wound that contains certain bad feelings from an unhealed moment in the past. Those same familiar feelings keep happening appearing to be stimulated by external circumstances and people around us. When we look at our life patterns we can find those familiar feelings occurred at other times in life with different faces and different situations. We will see how it keeps happening no matter where we live and no matter who is involved. It is the same script being played out with different people, different faces.
For a purpose though…
Let us be real with ourselves and acknowledge that we are the common denominator in all these situations. Maybe it is happening because we are doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. A different outcome is impossible and this is the definition of insanity. It is time to look in life’s proverbial feedback mirror (*purpose). An external circumstance is what it is; something that happfeelingened in life. The way we choose to perceive it, judge it, witness it on the spot is our choice, consciously or unconsciously. Often it is a highly reactive choice from the unconscious, reactive mind. It is the knee jerk reaction. And a reactive action by definition is repeating the same old behavior without conscious thought thus experiencing the same old feelings in life.
…that are doing their job attempting to point out a soft spot in your underbelly that if healed, life would be better. That’s the purpose of these repeating lessons in life.
When you have a moment of feeling bad about yourself, take a pause. Become aware of what you are feeling. How does it feel and where is it? What else can you sense about it? Is this in any way familiar to a repeating childhood feeling? And what have you been thinking about yourself prior to feeling badly about yourself. Thoughts lead our life and stir e-motions = energies in motion within you. This leads to our experiences in life.
Want a change?
Write those self-defeating thoughts down. Use pen and paper. It works more neurons in your brain to facilitate a change than typing it out. First relax into your inner self and reflect on wondering what is it about this situation that is wanting my attention? You may search your memories for familiar times in life when you felt the same feelings; who was involved and more details. Ask: What is the message for me to hear? Then pause your thinking and listen from within yourself.
Now become deliberate in your thinking. As Abraham, Esther Hicks, says: Contrast in this world helps you sharpen your rocket of desire. Create, choose and craft your thoughts deliberately. Adopt thoughts from others who have what you want. What is the opposite? What is it that you truly want and how do you want to feel?
These are the thoughts you are choosing to think to deliberately cause a change in life? Write these down. Polish them until they feel succinct and powerful when you read them and consider them. Put them on index cards and carry them with you reading them often and practice thinking them as if they are your regular thoughts. Life begins to change accordingly.
The ego drives this repeating the same thing over and over act while we think that we are moving forward. The ego has its place and benefits in the way we mix and manage our own choice of thoughts from multiple thought channels AND we have to tell it who is boss. You are in charge of your thoughts. You pick and choose your thoughts. Pull the self-defeating thoughts you imagine pulling out of your Mind Garden like you pull weeds from a garden. Plant the chosen thoughts like seeds and every time you read them and contemplate them you are nurturing those thought seeds to grow.
How important is your happiness, success and fulfillment? Is it important enough to sit down and take time for your well-being?
Choose your thoughts for a deliberate future
“Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy” done either with deliberate intent or unconscious indifference
Practice. Make a change
What could you do for 3 to 5 minutes today that would benefit you, your life and your well-being? Pick a vision, a dream, a goal, a desire, your index card of new thoughts… Sit, close your eyes and choose your thoughts deliberately. Then imagine it is already in your life…as you desire it to be. You have just caused your life to change. Rinse and repeat. And enjoy an unfolding beauty in your life.
Do the world a favor. Empower yourself to live your best life.
In-Joy, Enliven & In-Spire,