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Marianne Williamson Speaking About the Occupy Movement, Berkeley, CA November 2011

Sometimes the Divine Source speaks through humanity for a major change. This thought-provoking dive into the depths of history, humanity and spirit is well worth the watch.

I have seen Marianne Williamson speak in person and on the internet. To me, she is one of the people I respect so much for her ability, depth of insight and willingness to speak God’s truth; i.e. speaking about the intelligence that drives humanity. Her website is http://marianne.com/

I know that some people do not agree with the politics of this movement. I am not arguing anything here. This is a look deeper into the current global movements involving personal freedom and expression – something that we are not going to see on the news.

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Life difficulties: An Empowering Perspective

Agape International Spiritual Center

I am always inspired when I get to attend, via the internet, Agape International Spiritual Center and hear the living mystic known as Rev. Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith.

There is something transformational about listening to the right message at the right time from the right person. Thank you, professor Beckwith. Love to you. Thank you for preparing the way for us to walk our best and expansive life of service.

Background

I have been struggling with ‘getting’ what the last year has been about for me. Admittedly I have spent too much time trying to understand it, taking away from my forward-moving focus. I have had an enormous amount of #!%@ thrown my way starting in September 2010, so much so that my life does not even resemble what it was last year. THANK GOD!

I do not have the same income. 90% of it dropped away because the president of the training organization I taught for dropped me without a single consideration or word, spoken or written. This has taken some major adjustments to compensate for, mentally, emotionally, psychically, physically and spiritually; every -ly.

I do not live in the same place because I had to cut expenses. I found out that ‘friends’ ran for the hills. Many other traumatizing events that I do not wish to dig up right now. You can read hear what I did to get past it

Yes, that was the most horrifying place I have ever been as an adult. AND the truth is I was trying to fit into a global mind development training system that does not have room for an expansive soul. I have more to offer than that one simple method. I kept trying to squash myself, my visions and my ideas in order to fit in. I overlooked their indiscretions for more than three years. I finally got it: stop giving new opportunities to them to expand and update their method. They do not want it. And stop asking for help for my students because they are not interested. It was all falling on deaf ears. These opportunities must be for me.

I kept thinking “it must be me. I have to grow. Other teachers have been with them for over forty years. It must be me.” That is what the abused says to them self when they are trying to excuse the abuser. Some may think that may be an extreme place for me to take this to… it does apply in the manner in which things were handled.

Pain pushes until Vision pulls – Michael Beckwith

A Moment for Awakening

My life does not yet look anywhere close to where it is evolving into. Room for growth!

Can you feel the old, clingy, sappy, resentful energy in some of what I wrote above?

Is there an area in your life that you have some resentments?

Do you realize the price you pay for staying in that energy?
Has your life slowed down?
Do you find yourself complaining too much?
Are your thoughts full of bad thoughts towards others?
Is  your energy for life low?

Today’s opportunity

I heard Michael Beckwith say this:

A lot of chronic issues in life are a result of either:

  1. Trying to extract happiness from a world and life that is too small for you and/or
  2. That issue is bringing you a gift, a talent to activate within yourself (we’re growing a quality within us that is seeking to come forth)

When the 2 by 4s come fast and hard it is because you’ve broken a promise to your soul about what you are to do in this life. These are the lessons I set myself up for. They are coming hard and fast because I did not listen to the quiet voice within me telling me to make the change.

Truth is: I had three ‘readers’ who had told me in the previous two years to get out of that international company because they will screw you over. Those are the words of the channeler from Colorado and from an Akashic Record reader in Austin. I had already had many ‘small’ instances that I could have chosen to heed. Instead I chose to go along to get along just like the teachers that are still in the system told me they have had to for decades.

So, I had plenty of warning but I kept believing in something that wasn’t.

What I thought was a safe place to express my gifts to students and the world was not my safe place. It works for those who are still there. It does not work for me. They have the exercise I gave them that is being taught to the world, for which there was no recognition. I release that in grateful gratitude.

Stuck in a box?
Stuck in a box?

Minimal set points of society or Major set points for Living

Beckwith continued: society has set minimal points for which are good for us to follow: don’t cheat, lie and steal. But your calling does not vibrate at these minimal set points. There is no reason to squash yourself to just live by those. You have a greater set of points to live by and resonate with.

This calling does not fit into a small vision for living. It requires much more.

Summary

If you find yourself having a lot of difficulties in life change your perspective. Society has trained us to try to fit into ‘what was’. This requires you make yourself wrong, disempower yourself and shrink to fit into ‘what was’.

Instead realize that life is telling you to make some changes. Grow. Evolve. Expand your offerings to life. Live your purpose. Your new self does not fit into that old world. Say a resounding ‘YES’ within your self and mean it with all that you are.

And when your logical mind projects its fears into your future tell it: sshhh, I am in control and I am choosing to do this. When it says “but you do not have enough (fill in the blank)”. Tell it “I am doing it anyway”. When it says “I’m afraid to fail”. Say “I am doing it anyway”.

You are here to live a life of purpose. And Life is always conspiring on your behalf to bring you your highest good and your best life.

Let it. Listen to it. Heed it. Change, evolve and grow into your best life.

When you do this you give permission to someone else to say a resounding ‘YES’ to their own souls.

Blessings and share your thoughts and dreams in the comments.

Learning, Loving and Growing,

Lamar Irwin

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Intellectual Freedom, Carpe Diem and Be True to Yourself

Dead Poet's Society Movie Poster
Dead Poet's Society Movie Poster

 

To Be Read At The Opening
of D. P. S. Meetings

I went to the woods because I
wanted to live deliberately…
I wanted to live deep and suck
out all the marrow of life!
To put to rout all that was not life…
And not, when I came to die, discover
that I had not lived…

H.D.T

D.P.S

This is from the book of poetry Five Centuries of Verse that is used in the Dead Poet’s Society meetings. These are certain lines pulled from “Walden” by Henry David Thoreau.  The original poem and 3 others from the film are at: http://www.peterweircave.com/dps/verse.html

This is one of my most recommended movies to watch for those who desire to live from the depths of life and to experience the awesome-ness while here on the planet.

We watched this movie Dead Poet’s Society the other night. I have seen it several times but it had been a while. I was re-inspired in the best of ways.

Dead Poet's Society - Robin Williams
Dead Poet's Society - Robin Williams

I was reminded of these 3 important intents for life:

  • Develop and use Intellectual Freedom
  • Carpe Diem, Seize the Day
  • Be True to Yourself

Change is possible at any time of life. What is required is simple. Focus upon these intents regularly which will stir your thoughts, your perceptions of your life and increase your depth of self awareness. This will then allow new thoughts to come into your consciousness. Rest with them like you smell a good wine. Savor them like the first  sip of a fine wine on your palette.  And sense the new energies as they begin to stir within your personal matrix.

In Brief:

It is a quietly powerful movie with Robin Williams playing the teacher, Mr. Keating, who has enough awareness of himself and of life to use unorthodox teaching methods in a stodgy private school where parents send their boys to become what parents and society expects of them. Mr. Keating helps each boy open their minds and hearts, find their own intellectual freedom, take action to explore their lives, dare to stretch and expand their experiences in life. It is especially beautiful how he ‘pulls’ out the depths of one boy who is so self loathing and afraid of life that he just observes everyone. During the movie he transforms into more of his true self. A metamorphosis.

Several of these students resurrect the Dead Poet’s Society which ends up running afoul of the stodginess and expectations of the old people who “know what is best for each of the boys”. This is such a beautiful portrayal of life and possibilities with the boys awakening and resisting. It takes you through and into the depths and rewards of intellectual freedom and authenticity with a powerful heart.

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Gossip & Effective Communication

gossip
Gossiping

 

Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.        ~  Miguel Angel Ruiz, a great book ‘The Four Agreements’

(Some of you may read between the lines.)

I was extremely fortunate that once I had moved back from living in other countries being an engineer that I was referred to an incredible teacher, Frank Natale, who shattered my reality as I knew it; in good ways. He took people into the depths of their being and experiences beyond anything anyone could have imagined and beyond any teacher I have met to date… for those who were willing. It was all about being authentic to oneself, going into the depths of your own inner matrix and discovering who you are from the inside out. At times I consider it was boot camp for my soul… and just as tough with the best rewards ever.

One of the greatest lessons I learned from Frank was about gossip and effective communication. His trainings were experiential so he would set up exercises for you to learn lessons directly with the other participants. We learned the truth about the intent, behavior and content of gossip. And we learned what it says about the nature of the gossiper. These struck me deeply and altered the way I communicate with people, permanently. Thankfully this was when I was in my twenties.

Gossip is not the Truth

A cruel story runs on wheels, and every hand oils the wheels as they run.       ~  Ouida

The first thing to learn is that once one person tells a story to someone then that person says it to a second person then it goes to a third person and by now the content is different from what was first said. It begins to barely resemble the original story and will soon become a pack of lies. For the most part gossip is built on lies by the time you hear it. I have done this when I taught Effective Communication classes in business and spiritual centers and it always occurs.

gossip hurtsGossip operates with peoples’ unclean energies

Good gossip is just what’s going on. Bad gossip is stuff that is salacious, mean, and bitchy; the kind most people really enjoy.        ~  Liz Smith

The biggest lessons involved the ones learned by the heart and mind through those experiences. The personal energies involved in gossip are not clean. Think about the intent of someone who says bad things about someone else, especially if they never intend to resolve it to their face. Could there be anything positive that comes from talking about someone rather than talking directly to them? I know many people who walk away from gossip including myself. A person who gossips likes to work with negative energies. Like attracts like.

Gossiper’s intent

Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction, compared to the tongue of a Gossip.        ~  Richard Steele

If someone desires resolution then they do what is necessary to resolve things. When someone desires to harm someone else they do what is necessary to do so. Therefore the intent of the person who gossips is clear… it is a negative intent that comes from one’s own malice in her own heart.

Gossip is a Behavior

He gossips habitually; he lacks the common wisdom to keep still that deadly enemy of man, his own tongue.        ~  Mark Twain

The other thing to know about gossip is that if you listen to a person gossip about someone then you can bet your bottom dollar that when you walk away that same person will be gossiping about you to someone else. Gossip is a learned behavior. If a person gossips it is the way they have learned to do so. The good news is that we can always change our behavior once we become aware of it and desire to be better and better human beings.

Positive Facades are a dead giveawayGossip hurts

A real Christian is a person who can give his pet parrot to the town gossip.        ~  Billy Graham

Another truth is that those who you meet who claim to function effectively in a positive bubble are quite often the ones who have the most malicious intent in their hearts. These are the rosey optimists who have a nice façade but you do not dare want to go deeper and find the energy underneath. This is only natural. Life is about highs and lows and our control is in perceiving them and adapting appropriately. Those who think that their lives should be just positive do not handle criticism or feedback… therefore it builds up and becomes malice. This can be a result of some kind of substance abuse that is not fully healed.

Requirements for resolution

To resolve something with another person there are 3 basic requirements:

  1. Both people must be willing which means adjusting one’s personal frequency to the frequency of resolution
  2. Both people must talk to each other not about each other
  3. Both people must be willing to own their own truth in the matter and to listen to the other person’s truth in order to learn from it

Gossip does not solve anything since it is never addressed to the person for whom it would make a difference. It can never ever lead to resolution. Never! It exists at the frequency of ill intent towards others.

The Golden RuleGreat Rule

There is a great rule to follow:  Do not say anything about someone else that you have not or will not discuss with them. This takes the negative intent out of your communication.

I know that for me, having worked in global corporations and other companies after having this training I was not someone to hang out at the water cooler, so to speak. I adopted a habit of finding ways to excuse myself when someone would start to gossip. That is when I developed my internal points of reference where I could detect the energy of someone’s communication and tell if it was gossip as they began to talk. I have been known to just walk away. I do not choose to be in that energy and to facilitate malicious intent. It is under my conscious choice and control.

I know that through the years I have slipped at times and corrected myself. And I know that I have picked up the phone at times to speak directly with someone who was important to me to understand what I was hearing. Sometimes these became a great clearing leading to a closer connection with someone. This is an adopted behavior that has helped me to find authentic people to play with in life. It has made for less quantity of friends but much better quality of friends; people who are willing to be real with each other with minimal facades and use clear, honest and effective communication.

The Truth is always revealed about the Gossiper    Truth wins out

What I do know is that when there is gossip, give it enough time and quite often you will hear the truth about the originator of the gossip and witness how their malicious intent will come to the surface. Keep watching. The truth always surfaces. That is a law of life.

Note: I never have claimed nor will I ever claim to be perfect in everyone’s eyes. I do not desire to be that perfect presenter who claims no problems in life. My goal is to be authentic and to do my best to help others grow from my multidisciplinary trainings as a teacher. Therefore, as a teacher my life is transparent to those who desire to grow with me. Contact me if you hear something and desire clarity.

Very sincerely,

Lamar

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You have the right to Challenge your Thoughts

When we were children growing up our parents, teachers and other authorities gave us permissions to do some things and restrictions to not do some things. As adults we may not be aware that we still have these rules for life, sometimes living within parameters that no longer serve us and, in fact, hold us back from living our greatest life of service. We are having thoughts that we were given years ago.

I lay out this foundation as a way to present this concept:

You have the right to challenge each and every one of your thoughts.

Does this matter? What does this mean? Why bother?

Bottom line: your predominant thought pattern about a particular area of life brings about the matching results in your life. For anyone who saw the movie The Secret this is how the Law of Attraction works. i.e. If there is an area of life that is persistently not working for us then if we are honest with ourself and pay attention to the predominant thoughts and the resulting feelings we will see that we are allowing negative thoughts to rule our day, predominantly.

I mention ‘resulting feelings’ because our thoughts precede us having matching emotions. Our thoughts are our navigation for where we are heading and our emotions are the fuel that propel us there.

Now that all of that is said, back to the topic at hand. Since your thoughts are leading to your life and your thoughts may be simply repeating those life parameters from your parents and other authorities from childhood… maybe, just maybe, some of those thoughts are not leading your life in the best direction for what you most deeply desire to do. Maybe they are not in alignment with who you are.

As a result, I officially give you permission 😉 to challenge your thoughts.

How?

Begin by observing your thoughts. When you notice a thought ask yourself:

Does this thought lift up my energy? Do I feel empowered?

Is this in the direction that I want to go in my life?

If the answer is no, then choose another thought. Choose a thought that does reflect what you want in life. And entertain that thought. Doing this process of replacing unsupportive thoughts with supportive thoughts will end up altering your predominant thought pattern. This in turn will end up altering your predominant emotional pattern. This all leads to you having your life as you most desire it to be.

It is just The Way It Works.

Give it a shot and let me know how it works for you. Leave a comment and let’s talk about it.

Remember: Thoughts become things so choose the good ones.