Those heart pains, those breakups, those friends who disappeared from you, those soured dreams, and those griefs just get buried.
With each burial you suppress your vulnerability
(willingness to be ‘seen’ as is. No façade).
With each burial you lose your ability to feel as deeply
again. Your friends, family, and lovers get less of your love and self-expression.
With each burial you begin to fear intimacy (in-to-me-I-see).
You do not share what is in your heart.
With each burial you lose touch with your internal life guidance system, gps.
With each burial an authentic part of you dies off.
With each burial you feel more alone. Your ONEness with others
originates in your heart center.
With each burial you can only do what you have already done. Life expansion is squashed. Curiosity dies. Exploration ends. Self-expansion stops.
With each burial your seeking a better life withers away.
With each burial you build your walls higher and higher.
With each burial you lose a piece of you.
With each burial you put a foot into your own grave.
With each burial you justify becoming a part of the haze of normality. I consider this sort of a zombie-like state doing what you’re supposed to be doing, being as you are expected to be, doing what you have always done, and never heeding what is in your heart center to do and to become.
You become untethered from your soul because a closed heart prevents
that deep connection.
It then hurts to be truly ‘seen’, to put yourself out there
again. So, you don’t.
You are disabling your heart strengths. You lose touch with
your inherent ability to love, to see a friend as they are, and you become less
of a Light in this world.
What does this do to you the next time you feel that ‘falling
in love’ feeling? You cannot fall into your heart to feel and express that love
as deeply as you used to. You draw people into your life who also have shut off
much of their creative self-expression which requires heart skills.
What does this do to you when you meet that possibly great friend? You do not call or answer him. You are unable to experience that part of your heart center. Its energies are clogged and stuck.
What does this do to that dream that has been whispering to
How does this hamper that informed yet risky move you know
you need to make?
These are just some impacts of how an unhealed heart affects your life.
Dance like nobody’s watching; love like you’ve never been hurt. Sing like nobody’s listening; live like it’s heaven on earth.
~ Mark Twain
Expressions of love from your open heart
To feel what is in your heart is an expression of love.
To follow your internal life GPS is an expression of love.
To hang with a friend is an expression of love.
To make love is an expression of love.
To open up to romance is an expression of love.
To love fully like never before is an expression of love.
To follow your dreams is an expression of love.
To listen to your hunches, your intuition, is an expression of love.
As a part of a class, I began doing daily meditations about abundance principles. I completed the 40th and final one today; each one lasts about 15 minutes. These are based on The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price.
I uploaded each one daily to my audio site at www.SoundCloud.com/MindTechnology so that the people in the world has the option to increase their abundance in life through evolving one’s own consciousness. There is a companion journal available in pdf format.
This is a great program for a couple, a group of friends, a group of seekers or a spiritual community or… Instructions are simple: Start with day 1 and listen to one each day without any distractions. Watch your own evolution and life abundance grow.
The bottom line is your level of abundance in any area of life individually and collectively, is directly because of your current consciousness about where you believe abundance comes from. And through proper identification and evolved consciousness you find that true abundance comes from a relaxed use of the abundance principles.
And true abundance in your life can be as expansive and lavish as your consciousness develops to allow.
I offer this to the world as a part of my mission to uplift the consciousness on the planet. I ask to hear insights and testimonials. And when you find value click a donate button (on the right) and show some love this way…in the form of money. That will enable me to do more programs to spread the word of a fundamental truth about life:
Life is all about 3 things: Consciousness, Consciousness and Consciousness.
THAT is what makes your life be what it is…and what it will be.
To open your heart is to expand your field of vision in life, your depth of perception and your ability to receive love, joy, gratitude, well-being and to connect deeply with others.
Awakenings arise from the heart intelligence.
When you shut off your heart center all of that expansiveness closes off.
The world becomes black and white, stale and limited. You go back to judgment of others and a belief in separation.
This is the domain of the logical mind which is the source of the egoic awareness. Its purpose is to not change…at all costs keeping all current life pains, limitations, problems.
Each of us has multiple intelligence centers in our human system. The brain has two and the body has many with two as the brain for the body’s intelligence centers. Each intelligence center has a different energy that arises with a thought to help us move the idea into action. More to come…
“If you want to know what you have been thinking then take stock of what, who, etc is around you in your life.”
One of Frank Natale’s to-the-point sayings.
Thought Creates Your Reality
Great thoughts yield a great life
Clear thoughts produce clear life results. Confusion does otherwise.
Deliberate thoughts yield a life of one’s choosing and loving
Reality is the Result of a process begun by the thoughts a person is choosing to imagine, feel and focus on in their mind and heart. It gestates in the Creative Mind where the unseen Creative Forces begin arranging for it. It is nurtured through one’s regular relaxed imaginative focus upon their life as they see it, as if it is already done.
If you are new to these empowering concepts or if you are an old hat at it… Study this previous paragraph and implement it. Practice it regularly and watch how new opportunities and ideas show up, how you synchronistically run into the right person or overhear the right conversation and other opportunities come to you. You simply begin to magnetize what is needed to accomplish what you are imagining into your sphere of life. Many other events occur in your life and in your mind and heart that are different signs. This is simply working with the Creative Mind as it is always providing you what your life choices have brought you to. Each of those choices made in your mind hopefully with great input from the heart-mind.
What are your thoughts when it comes to:
Are you in charge of your life or is it in charge of you?
Take charge and learn how to refocus it deliberately
Love of and for friends and family
Career success and happiness
Material world: house, car, other desires
Heart Care as in forgiving, healing and expanding your inner sacred heart
Mind care as in learning, challenging yourself
Spiritual growth and care as in learning, practicing
Emotional care is different from Heart Care although they are connected. More…
Consider a different perspective on emotions. They can be seen as e-motions = energies in motion. The e-motions you feel are your programmed inner interpretation of how the energies feel that are running throughout your body system and all around you. You can sense that in your head, your chest or other locations by quieting yourself and focusing your attention in the different areas within.
If anything, take some personal care time, grab a pen and pad, find a comfy place, play some music that brings you peace and focus. Then lose yourself in an hour of daydreaming, contemplating and expanding the thought box in which your life is being lived.
Contemplate what you desire in life from today to next month to the end of the year and bigger longer-term goals. Write them down. Play with them until they feel good; i.e. they are stirring up good energies within you that you interpret as feeling good.
Yes, it is a tedious process in what was just written. To parse and discern one’s thoughts, emotions and inner workings is to gain more and more dominion over your inner self…thus your experiences of life.
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I enjoy helping people expand beyond what they ever conceived of doing. Or for the person who has held in a quiet dream or desire. Or for the professional seeking the next level up.
The resulting combination of the diversity of systems I have learned, practiced, licensed, etc to unleash the human potential studies assist through focusing on the thoughts, emotions, energies, sensations, life circumstances.
In this process the beginning steps will become clear. This is your journey so all of my focus is how to fine tune you like tuning an instrument. And to bring answers from within your own self to your life questions.
You have a friendship, a working relationship, a bromance or a romance with someone and suddenly you feel a little less heart from him or her. Slowly or quickly that person closes off to you. You do not understand or know what happened. And most people do not ask difficult questions to clarify things and many people will not tell the truth in difficult conversations. That seems to be the societal norm.
What happens between people in all kinds of relationships that slowly separates them? Of course there could be other specific reasons for that. I want to cover a phenomenon that some people may not be aware of yet. An impact on relationships that stems from the societal norm of being nice or the fear of being authentic. Maybe it is the lack of trained skills to develop and deepen relationships.
Foundation for this approach to communication
Effective Communication is when both people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. More details on this at this blogpost
We create these blocks that can be called ‘withholds’ between people and we do not realize the impact on our closeness.
Every time you judge someone for something you lay a brick between you and them.
Each time you do not clarify a misunderstanding with someone you lay more bricks between you and them.
When you hear something contrary about someone and spread that to others you lay more bricks in a wall of separation.
When you say something about them behind their back you continue building a wall of separation.
You are putting up a brick in an eventual wall of separation if you keep judging that person without communicating with them.
This wall within you then distorts any perspective on that person. It affects your ability to see him or her accurately. The wall begins to fully separate as all past clarity gets obfuscated and covered up.
Then consider the fact that inter-human communication is at least 90% nonverbal and we realize that person has nonverbally picked up on our thoughts that separate us, also.
And we wonder why we have a hard time connecting with people in general. Our perspectives, walls and other foibles distort the clarity of who they are within our mind and who we are in their mind.
Any brick we do not reexamine to see if it can be dissolved will maintain separation.
Do yourself a favor – seek clarity – because there is an additional truth about these thoughts of separation. They exist within your mind and each of them is a block holding you from your own good. Even if the person is to move out of your life it is best done clean. Heal then do conscious separation.
Why am I writing more about interrelation communication?
It is easy to say you want to be more spiritual or be a better person. In the beginning good and new things are happening as your heart and mind open up. As you deepen that way of being in life you will have some periods where things are rocky, the shadow journey that brings such great rewards for those courageous enough to proceed through it. Find those people who will be empowered and empowering throughout life or the lifetime of a project.
Ideas for practicing this
Take a breath and relax. Hold the desire to be clear with this person in your heart. Ask the person if you could talk privately.
When you do meet: Preferably sit across from each other knees to knees almost touching. No barriers. If it’s true for you, then say how difficult it is to ask this or say this. Then ask it in a non-accusatory way; be curious with it.
And listen with your ears, brain and heart. Respond from clear thinking not defenses.
When you hear something derogatory about someone, do you and them a favor. Do this especially if this information conflicts with your previous experiences with that person. Take a breath and say something like hey, I heard something about you that I wanted to tell you (or to ask you about).
Some of us have so many breaks within us including me. This was a big relief and I am grateful that I learned authentic life skills like these in my twenties. I have been practicing as much as I could as I find people or rarely groups who resonate with this level of authenticity and are willing to do it. This authentic approach sometimes does not work for some people.
My training with The Natale Institute has kept me away from gossip which means ultimately you become the subject of gossip. Some people have to throw shade at others. Watch this truth: If you are listening to someone gossip then you can rest assured that the person who was talking gossip about someone else to you will now turn and gossip about you to that someone else. It is not up to you. It is that person’s behavior. Make a choice as to what you want to be around.
[Watch for a future post about the intent and impact of gossiping.]
As Frank Natale, The Natale Institute, defined it: Effective Communication is when both people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. This can be expanded to include ‘all the people’ involved.
Qualities of Environment and People
Safe environment with some absolute rules:
All hats, positions of power, are removed and we are all one
Communicate at an authentic level to get clear
Benefits to teams and groups of people and individuals
Create an avenue for self expression.
Create an atmosphere of trust.
Then foster deep inner creativity which I also train enhancing it and accessing creativity on cue.
You can potentially create an environment that fosters an effective team or group of people or a humanity project. Teams who want to be a self expressive collective force to reckon with would benefit.
A commitment to Unity with another person. They have let go of the intent to separate.
Effective Speaking and Listening
The person speaking uses ‘I’ statements owning the impact with him or her of what was said or some event happened to the other person
The person listening is fully present feeling and hearing what is being communicated verbally and nonverbally.
[I will add to this post with more detail as I write other topics from this concept.]
This is sort of a post to define Effective Communication. I will refer to this post as I introduce some guidelines and methods to practice this.
I offer these empowering classes that deal directly with this including in an experiential learning manner. I was well-trained by them and I apprenticed with Wilbert Alex. I now comprehend broader applied sciences to human consciousness, spiritual empowering approaches and the matrix of energies in which we exist and can thrive as much as we seek.
Who would benefit from this sort of training?
Teams that want to be tight with each other, trusting in and empowering each other. Could be emergency crews, boardrooms, business teams, nonprofit, spiritual, medical teams, educational teams and others.
It is deeply empowering for those spiritual communities who seek to build a tight bond and trust amongst members.
Life works well sometimes and sometimes…well, it doesn’t seem that way.
As humans we are living and breathing the experiences of life. In one moment we can feel so joyful and one event, or even one wrong thought, later we can feel misery. It can be neutral or our feelings can cycle some in the day from happy to rejecting yourself to sadness to feeling successful to joy… It is not that every person has any kind of emotional disorder. It is life especially at times when we are pushing our limits.
One teacher said if you live life in neutral and seek life to always be peace and calm without moments of life being disruptive then you have flatlined.
Michael Beckwith talked about going out of this life in pristine condition or a little bruised, cuts, pains, scratches from having stretched your limits. I am in the latter category with periods of sedentary personal movement.
Life can be seen as a journey of bringing more of our Inner Light into our external life. This involves some journeys of healing through our shadow journey. Oftentimes people stop here because it looks frightening. I am fortunate to have been pushed and guided to do this work. I still resist yet I know the other side will be much more expansive and freeing. So I end up taking a deep breath in while taking the first step to a new me and an expanded life.
And remember that is where you are along your life’s journey. Don’t let yourself get stuck in this phase. Respect it. Hire a guide like me 🙂 Learn from it and reveal more Light into your life.
Once we learn to direct our inner self and utilize and manage our inner reactions, feelings and thoughts then we can become less reactive to all the different stimuli and events in life. With practice we begin to direct our inner resources to cause deliberate changes in life externally and within ourselves.
Life became more fun once I began to find out how to use the inner tools that are inherent within everyone. We can design, create and empower a chosen inner reality that develops into our external experiences we call life.
Whatever is not going the way you want in life, take a few moments and relax your body, your mind, your energy. Are you ready to let this ‘problem’ go? When you feel and hear ‘YES’ then take that full cleansing breath of life in deeply. Hold it at the top and internally choose to Let this go – all thoughts, energies, concerns, judgments and whatever else about it that darkens your Light.
Pause and feel the new air and space to create something new. Immerse yourself for a few moments into your favorite vacation spot ever. This helps to relax.
Create your life. Now imagine what you want it to be instead. Imagine, visualize, sense, hear, taste, touch, smell and feel it changing. Play in this new reality feeling it as if it is true. Do this regularly and make it feel familiar. Your life will start taking you there to follow your true reality which is
Breathe peace into it. Keep your focus on this chosen reality instead of the way it appears. And allow it to change gently and gracefully.
And do what you can to remain in a state of joy and gratitude.
This is a simple way to begin to receive what you want in life with ease and grace instead of stress and uncertainty.