Someone asks you if you want to go skydiving. You reply quickly ‘I can’t imagine doing that’.
Or, do you want to expand into a bigger or nicer home. “I can’t imagine that.”
Someone describes their life of abundance. You think to yourself “I can’t imagine that for me’.
It is a good practice to start noticing your automatic replies to things. Wonder if maybe it’s just not for you or maybe it’s an unconscious limit showing itself to be re-looked at to see if that stills applies to who you are now.
These are declarative statements we sometimes make when something seems too big, too outside the box, too much abundance or too (whatever). And sometimes we just do not have interest or curiosity. That’s valid when it truly applies.
The truth is people say these things without conscious thought. Wherever they were adopted from, they are showing you and others your limits. Recognize that some limits are necessary and some just stop us from growing. If you don’t catch your self or have a friend notice what you say, then you may be giving clues as to why you are not able to change, be who you choose to be or not achieve your goals.
Is it time to challenge your old ways?
What are those automatic thoughts that stop you from who you want to be?
What bothers me about you, belongs to me. From a German saying.
That translates into what bothers you about someone else, belongs to you.
This is an axiom for personal empowerment; a fundamental law for human interaction.
Leaking Personal Energy
This is not just words. This speaks to the amount of energy you have for your life. You have more power when you heal your leaks thus altering your awareness of your self. Continue reading below… The Gift
The Gift is that each problem you judge in someone else is life giving you a signal to do a little healing within yourself. Why walk around with your open wounds so easily push-able? These are your buttons. Own them. Do a little self-healing and self-realizing, so that no one can push those buttons to cause you pain anymore.
A Masterful Teacher I had in my twenties, Frank Natale said: No one can reject anything about you, unless you have already rejected that within yourself.
Thus these friends, people, coworkers are actually acting as your GPS system for you to find your energy leaks, aka the buttons that cause you pain. Once healed, you gain more personal energy through personal empowerment. Give thanks for them playing their role in your life.
Own It to Be Present in Your Life
In situations where you may judge and condemn others, you are leaking personal energy. Most people think their problems are because of someone else or something outside of themselves. This level of consciousness leaks your personal energy out of you, losing what you could use for fun, loved ones and achieving your goals.
And you wonder why you are tired! You’re like a leaky water hose, losing power and pressure while spraying everyone else.
Just like real estate being all about location, location, location…
…Life is about consciousness, consciousness, consciousness.
Invest time and resources in bettering you. It pays a lifelong dividend.
Do something today to make your life better for you and those around you. Consider a coaching session. A trained person can see things for you that aid you in permanently patching the leaks in the flow of your life.
THIS is at the root cause of so many misinterpretations we make of other people. Then we talk about it to others. That magnifies it. We think we know someone’s intent, agenda or whatever actions against us that we think we are accurately seeing in them. Truth is it exists in our feeling-thought-feeling-thought personal bubble and we are seeing our own reflection; an Infinite Do Loop…that sometimes is keeping us stuck.
Your Perspective Filters on Life
Whenever we have been thinking badly of our self in some way, the way we see the world and others changes. Our perspective changes based on our mood, expectations of/from others known/unknown desired/undesired, beliefs, walls, values and more. We see life through all of these and more filters that distort the true reality. Then we may be easily swayed by others which means we take on their life filters. Soon our perception of reality may resemble looking through a kaleidoscope; a fragmented representation of the true reality.
The Comfort Zone
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Each of us has/had some inner feelings we do not like that keeps reoccurring
At times in life we are driven by an inner wound that contains certain bad feelings from an unhealed moment in the past. Those same familiar feelings keep happening appearing to be stimulated by external circumstances and people around us. When we look at our life patterns we can find those familiar feelings occurred at other times in life with different faces and different situations. We will see how it keeps happening no matter where we live and no matter who is involved. It is the same script being played out with different people, different faces.
For a purpose though…
Let us be real with ourselves and acknowledge that we are the common denominator in all these situations. Maybe it is happening because we are doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. A different outcome is impossible and this is the definition of insanity. It is time to look in life’s proverbial feedback mirror (*purpose). An external circumstance is what it is; something that happfeelingened in life. The way we choose to perceive it, judge it, witness it on the spot is our choice, consciously or unconsciously. Often it is a highly reactive choice from the unconscious, reactive mind. It is the knee jerk reaction. And a reactive action by definition is repeating the same old behavior without conscious thought thus experiencing the same old feelings in life.
…that are doing their job attempting to point out a soft spot in your underbelly that if healed, life would be better. That’s the purpose of these repeating lessons in life.
When you have a moment of feeling bad about yourself, take a pause. Become aware of what you are feeling. How does it feel and where is it? What else can you sense about it? Is this in any way familiar to a repeating childhood feeling? And what have you been thinking about yourself prior to feeling badly about yourself. Thoughts lead our life and stir e-motions = energies in motion within you. This leads to our experiences in life.
Want a change?
Write those self-defeating thoughts down. Use pen and paper. It works more neurons in your brain to facilitate a change than typing it out. First relax into your inner self and reflect on wondering what is it about this situation that is wanting my attention? You may search your memories for familiar times in life when you felt the same feelings; who was involved and more details. Ask: What is the message for me to hear? Then pause your thinking and listen from within yourself.
Now become deliberate in your thinking. As Abraham, Esther Hicks, says: Contrast in this world helps you sharpen your rocket of desire. Create, choose and craft your thoughts deliberately. Adopt thoughts from others who have what you want. What is the opposite? What is it that you truly want and how do you want to feel?
These are the thoughts you are choosing to think to deliberately cause a change in life? Write these down. Polish them until they feel succinct and powerful when you read them and consider them. Put them on index cards and carry them with you reading them often and practice thinking them as if they are your regular thoughts. Life begins to change accordingly.
The ego drives this repeating the same thing over and over act while we think that we are moving forward. The ego has its place and benefits in the way we mix and manage our own choice of thoughts from multiple thought channels AND we have to tell it who is boss. You are in charge of your thoughts. You pick and choose your thoughts. Pull the self-defeating thoughts you imagine pulling out of your Mind Garden like you pull weeds from a garden. Plant the chosen thoughts like seeds and every time you read them and contemplate them you are nurturing those thought seeds to grow.
How important is your happiness, success and fulfillment? Is it important enough to sit down and take time for your well-being?
Choose your thoughts for a deliberate future
“Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy” done either with deliberate intent or unconscious indifference
Practice. Make a change
What could you do for 3 to 5 minutes today that would benefit you, your life and your well-being? Pick a vision, a dream, a goal, a desire, your index card of new thoughts… Sit, close your eyes and choose your thoughts deliberately. Then imagine it is already in your life…as you desire it to be. You have just caused your life to change. Rinse and repeat. And enjoy an unfolding beauty in your life.
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I board the plane to continue my journey back to Austin. I am happy that I have extended legroom for my tall frame and that no one is in the middle seat between me and another man. This man is engaged in either his phone or his Unix book, alternating between the two.
I have a little bit of the sniffles (I think it is just sinus adjustments to the elevation and to the cold and hot I experienced while in Colorado). And I have lots of energy and do not want to sleep on the plane. Thus I decide to write the blogpost: Synchronicity Makes Life Happen with Ease and Grace using my phone.
After we take off I did some deep breathing and leaned forward stretching then moving into a straight up position where I exhaled…right on the back of the lady’s head in front of me. Oops. I apologized then…
I struck up a conversation with Brittany, as I later learned her name. She has lived her whole life in Colorado and moved to Austin three years ago when her husband got a good job here. She sincerely misses family, all of whom live in Colorado. As we talk we realize we have similar situations in life such as our moms struggled with an illness for around two decades before passing on. She is wrestling with understanding what happened to her mom. There was detectable grief within her. I was able to share some of the gifts I received in that difficult childhood-into-adulthood situation, as I experienced it. This got her thinking a tad differently.
She mentioned she had been contemplating what mindfulness means.
We eventually talked about using visualization to change life and doing things to heal our self from within concerning the pains and losses of life. She has never heard any of these concepts. We talk while she contorts her body to turn around sideways to face me from the seat directly in front me. I realize there is an empty seat across the aisle from her. Her body can be more relaxed now as I move into that seat to talk.
We share a lot and she asks me questions; all of which I am happy to answer.
As we are talking I notice the lady sitting in the seat directly in front of Brittany keeps shaking her head affirming what she was hearing us discuss. I am discussing the idea that we can go within, into our Inner Power Center, to heal our life when this other lady turned around to confirm that she, too, does healing work. Go figure! Really? Two of us on the plane do this sort of work (in different ways) that is not so understood by normal society?
Synchronicities are piling up 🙂
Janet ‘happens’ to be sitting in that seat when her assigned seat is in the back of the plane; had to have happened for us to meet. Do you begin to see how the Universe operates?
She is in Giddings, Texas, of all places, doing healing work in a smaller conservative Texas town. Cool! She is returning from a conference learning the association between emotions and hormones and how to facilitate someone’s healing at that level. This is a subject I am interested in also. She and I exchange info, of course.
While I am talking to Brittany and Janet I notice that the man who is by the window where my assigned seat is on the aisle begins to look at me and starts smiling. I do not know if he is hearing me or if something else triggered his opening to me. It could be the incredible openness, strong and clear energy within me and things I am exhibiting because of the conference which was enlightening, empowering, healing…and I got to see one friend from more than 25 years ago and another friend who had moved from Austin to Boulder. i.e. I am feeling great and incredibly aligned with my inner self, my mission and vision I am bringing forth.
Or maybe there’s a fly on my nose he is smiling at 🙂
I finished my conversations with Brittany and Janet as we flew closer to Austin. I moved back to my assigned seat sensing the energies of our communications was waning; it had been an hour+. As I sat down Pedram starts talking with me.
Now, this is a totally different interaction. My inner electrical engineer gets to come out to play with him…and my creative mind gets sparked.
He has a doctorate and is a senior principal of something I have never heard of. He tells me about two projects he is working on. This man is highly intelligent. One project is the IOT, the new “Internet of Things”; wow, we have some HUGE innovations coming forth into our lives. And he is on a project between two High Tech Titans (corporations) working with software and customized chips that will bring healing directly to the cells that require healing.
Way too awesome and my creative mind gets sparked and brings me new ideas to share with him which makes him look at me strangely lol. I am used to it by now.
I shared these spontaneous new ideas that came to me while he was talking. He looked at me strangely until I said I am an electrical engineer and have traveled the world living and working. And we continued a great conversation.
I shared that we have another intelligence center, the intuitive/creative mind, from which we can deliberately receive new and genius ideas. I mention how we can send healing energy to others that is unseen. As he contorts his mind wondering whether or not I am sane I continue. I mention that there must be a way to send the software program as an atom through the custom processor into the person who needs healing without a physical interface. I am going way beyond what he is used to hearing.
I continue sharing that just like the Law of Gravity and other laws that Sir Isaac Newton is credited with discovering how the physical aspect of life works…there are laws and principles of the unseen creative force that we can access to shape our life and to receive intuitive thoughts and ideas on cue; includes the Law of Attraction, Law of Mental Equivalents, Principle of ONEness, Principle of Reciprocity and much more. They are repeatable and usable just like the laws and principles that govern the physical realm of life.
I get his business card as we agree we want to go out and meet. I just texted him to meet.
Life Proactively Supports Us
How is it that I am ‘accidentally’ sitting next to 3 people on a plane, that is not full in the front of the cabin, who have common interests?
Or is this a synchronous event where we are sitting together because there are unanswered questions, desires and/or curiosities within the four of us that are getting answered by us meeting and talking?
Makes me go hmm and want to learn more. I will post more about the conference and synchronicities.
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You have a friendship, a working relationship, a bromance or a romance with someone and suddenly you feel a little less heart from him or her. Slowly or quickly that person closes off to you. You do not understand or know what happened. And most people do not ask difficult questions to clarify things and many people will not tell the truth in difficult conversations. That seems to be the societal norm.
What happens between people in all kinds of relationships that slowly separates them? Of course there could be other specific reasons for that. I want to cover a phenomenon that some people may not be aware of yet. An impact on relationships that stems from the societal norm of being nice or the fear of being authentic. Maybe it is the lack of trained skills to develop and deepen relationships.
Foundation for this approach to communication
Effective Communication is when both people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. More details on this at this blogpost
We create these blocks that can be called ‘withholds’ between people and we do not realize the impact on our closeness.
Every time you judge someone for something you lay a brick between you and them.
Each time you do not clarify a misunderstanding with someone you lay more bricks between you and them.
When you hear something contrary about someone and spread that to others you lay more bricks in a wall of separation.
When you say something about them behind their back you continue building a wall of separation.
You are putting up a brick in an eventual wall of separation if you keep judging that person without communicating with them.
This wall within you then distorts any perspective on that person. It affects your ability to see him or her accurately. The wall begins to fully separate as all past clarity gets obfuscated and covered up.
Then consider the fact that inter-human communication is at least 90% nonverbal and we realize that person has nonverbally picked up on our thoughts that separate us, also.
And we wonder why we have a hard time connecting with people in general. Our perspectives, walls and other foibles distort the clarity of who they are within our mind and who we are in their mind.
Any brick we do not reexamine to see if it can be dissolved will maintain separation.
Do yourself a favor – seek clarity – because there is an additional truth about these thoughts of separation. They exist within your mind and each of them is a block holding you from your own good. Even if the person is to move out of your life it is best done clean. Heal then do conscious separation.
Why am I writing more about interrelation communication?
It is easy to say you want to be more spiritual or be a better person. In the beginning good and new things are happening as your heart and mind open up. As you deepen that way of being in life you will have some periods where things are rocky, the shadow journey that brings such great rewards for those courageous enough to proceed through it. Find those people who will be empowered and empowering throughout life or the lifetime of a project.
Ideas for practicing this
Take a breath and relax. Hold the desire to be clear with this person in your heart. Ask the person if you could talk privately.
When you do meet: Preferably sit across from each other knees to knees almost touching. No barriers. If it’s true for you, then say how difficult it is to ask this or say this. Then ask it in a non-accusatory way; be curious with it.
And listen with your ears, brain and heart. Respond from clear thinking not defenses.
When you hear something derogatory about someone, do you and them a favor. Do this especially if this information conflicts with your previous experiences with that person. Take a breath and say something like hey, I heard something about you that I wanted to tell you (or to ask you about).
Some of us have so many breaks within us including me. This was a big relief and I am grateful that I learned authentic life skills like these in my twenties. I have been practicing as much as I could as I find people or rarely groups who resonate with this level of authenticity and are willing to do it. This authentic approach sometimes does not work for some people.
My training with The Natale Institute has kept me away from gossip which means ultimately you become the subject of gossip. Some people have to throw shade at others. Watch this truth: If you are listening to someone gossip then you can rest assured that the person who was talking gossip about someone else to you will now turn and gossip about you to that someone else. It is not up to you. It is that person’s behavior. Make a choice as to what you want to be around.
[Watch for a future post about the intent and impact of gossiping.]
As Frank Natale, The Natale Institute, defined it: Effective Communication is when both people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. This can be expanded to include ‘all the people’ involved.
Qualities of Environment and People
Safe environment with some absolute rules:
All hats, positions of power, are removed and we are all one
Communicate at an authentic level to get clear
Benefits to teams and groups of people and individuals
Create an avenue for self expression.
Create an atmosphere of trust.
Then foster deep inner creativity which I also train enhancing it and accessing creativity on cue.
You can potentially create an environment that fosters an effective team or group of people or a humanity project. Teams who want to be a self expressive collective force to reckon with would benefit.
A commitment to Unity with another person. They have let go of the intent to separate.
Effective Speaking and Listening
The person speaking uses ‘I’ statements owning the impact with him or her of what was said or some event happened to the other person
The person listening is fully present feeling and hearing what is being communicated verbally and nonverbally.
[I will add to this post with more detail as I write other topics from this concept.]
This is sort of a post to define Effective Communication. I will refer to this post as I introduce some guidelines and methods to practice this.
I offer these empowering classes that deal directly with this including in an experiential learning manner. I was well-trained by them and I apprenticed with Wilbert Alex. I now comprehend broader applied sciences to human consciousness, spiritual empowering approaches and the matrix of energies in which we exist and can thrive as much as we seek.
Who would benefit from this sort of training?
Teams that want to be tight with each other, trusting in and empowering each other. Could be emergency crews, boardrooms, business teams, nonprofit, spiritual, medical teams, educational teams and others.
It is deeply empowering for those spiritual communities who seek to build a tight bond and trust amongst members.