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Self Empowerment

You have the right to Challenge your thoughts

When we were children growing up our parents, teachers and other authorities gave us permissions to do some things and restrictions to not do some things. As adults we may not be aware that we still have these rules for life, sometimes living within parameters that no longer serve us and, in fact, hold us back from living our greatest life of service. We are having thoughts that we were given years ago.

I lay out this foundation as a way to present this concept:

You have the right to challenge each and every one of your thoughts.

Does this matter? What does this mean? Why bother?

Bottom line: your predominant thought pattern about a particular area of life brings about the matching results in your life. For anyone who saw the movie The Secret this is how the Law of Attraction works. i.e. If there is an area of life that is persistently not working for us then if we are honest with ourself and pay attention to the predominant thoughts and the resulting feelings we will see that we are allowing negative thoughts to rule our day, predominantly.

I mention ‘resulting feelings’ because our thoughts precede us having matching emotions. Our thoughts are our navigation for where we are heading and our emotions are the fuel that propel us there.

Now that all of that is said, back to the topic at hand. Since your thoughts are leading to your life and your thoughts may be simply repeating those life parameters from your parents and other authorities from childhood… maybe, just maybe, some of those thoughts are not leading your life in the best direction for what you most deeply desire to do. Maybe they are not in alignment with who you are.

As a result, I officially give you permission 😉 to challenge your thoughts.

How?

Begin by observing your thoughts. When you notice a thought ask yourself:

Does this thought lift up my energy? Do I feel empowered?

Is this in the direction that I want to go in my life?

If the answer is no, then choose another thought. Choose a thought that does reflect what you want in life. And entertain that thought. Doing this process of replacing unsupportive thoughts with supportive thoughts will end up altering your predominant thought pattern. This in turn will end up altering your predominant emotional pattern. This all leads to you having your life as you most desire it to be.

It is just The Way It Works.

Give it a shot and let me know how it works for you. Leave a comment and let’s talk about it.

Remember: Thoughts become things so choose the good ones.

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Self Empowerment

Pique your Curiosity

Curiosity is the key to making a change; it is a mental energy/state that opens your mind to hear something new.

These are some items from John Mooney sent to me; a friend, and the Silva Method instructor in Corpus Christi, Texas. He’s been teaching for decades and is an exceptionally insightful person.

A master’s awareness of spiritual laws directs him or her to manifest major life changes by working with their thoughts, not by working harder.

Which isn’t to say they don’t sometimes work very long hours, because they do; they just don’t think of it as work. Which also isn’t to say that they all have cool jobs that anyone would love, because they don’t; they just see every task before them, no matter where they work, as a gift to unwrap.

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True brilliance is not a function of understanding one’s view of the world and finding order, logic, and spirituality in it. True brilliance is understanding that your view of order, logic, and spirituality is what created your world.

And therefore being forever capable of changing everything.

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One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big notice on the door on which it was written: “Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym”.

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought: “Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!”.

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: “There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU. You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.”

“The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with yourself”

Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don’t be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your reality.

The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed. The world and your reality are like mirrors lying in a coffin, which show to any individual the death of his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success. It’s the way you face Life that makes the difference.

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It’s kind of like you live in a Wizard of Oz world, and you’re Dorothy, off to see the Wizard, the most wonderful Wizard of all, who can grant your wishes, and then some too. With a twist.

You see, this Wizard is no Wizard at all, but “mere mortal” just pretending to have power that he doesn’t really have. But that’s not the twist.

Of course, it turns out that when put to the test, when it really matters, when he really, really cares, the Wizard actually does have supernatural powers. That’s not the twist either.

The twist, is that you’re also the Wizard, the most wonderful Wizard of all.

Right, this ain’t Kansas, Toto, but it is Monday, and you totally rock –
The Universe

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Studies

What makes you happy? Things or events

This is from CNN

http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/02/10/happiness.possessions/index.html

Study: Experiences make us happier than possessions

  • Story Highlights
  • Study looks at 154 people in San Francisco
  • Experiences also make other people happy, not just the individual
  • Psychologist: Communities should invest in bike trails, parks to create experiences
By Elizabeth Landau
CNN

(CNN) — Even in tough economic times, you may find yourself with a bit of cash to spare. You’ve been working hard, and you want to treat yourself. Should you spend it on an experience, such as a baseball game or concert, or a material object?

Psychological research suggests that, in the long run, experiences make people happier than possessions.

That’s in part because the initial joy of acquiring a new object, such as a new car, fades over time as people become accustomed to seeing it every day, experts said. Experiences, on the other hand, continue to provide happiness through memories long after the event occurred.

Ryan Howell, assistant professor of psychology at San Francisco State University, presented his findings this week at the Society for Personality and Social Psychology annual meeting. VideoWatch for more on the study »

The study looked at 154 people enrolled at San Francisco State University, with an average age of about 25. Participants answered questions about a recent purchase — either material or experiential — they personally made in the last three months with the intention of making themselves happy.

While most people were generally happy with the purchase regardless of what it was, those who wrote about experiences tended to show a higher satisfaction at the time and after the experience had passed.

The most striking difference was in how participants said others around them reacted to either the purchased object or experience. Experiences led to more happiness in others than purchases did. A sense of relatedness to others — getting closer to friends and family — may be one of the reasons why experiences generate more happiness.

“When people spend money on life experiences, whether they also take someone with them or buy an extra ticket or whatever, most of our life experiences involve other individuals,” Howell said. People were fulfilling their need for social bonding while having these experiences, he said. Visit CNNhealth.com, your connection for better living

Another reason for increased happiness in experiences, the researchers found, was that people felt a greater sense of vitality or “being alive” during the experience and in reflection, Howell said.

“As nice as your new computer is, it’s not going to make you feel alive,” he said.

Most psychologists who study the phenomenon say people adapt to a new purchase in six to eight weeks, up to a maximum of three months, Howell said. That means the initial pleasure we get from a new possession generally fades in a matter of months.

Howell’s study builds on earlier work by Thomas Gilovich, professor and chairman of the psychology department at Cornell University. Gilovich and colleague Leaf Van Boven’s seminal 2003 paper “To do or to have: That is the question” found similar results about possessions bringing less happiness than experiences.

Experts also point out that people are less self-conscious when comparing experiences than they are about possessions. It will probably bother you more that your friend’s home theater is better than yours than if your friend saw more sights on her South Seas vacation, Gilovich said.

Experiences form “powerful and important memories that I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world,” Gilovich said.

It’s not just individuals who should be thinking about investing in experiences when making purchasing choices — policy makers should also keep this reasoning in mind for their communities, he said.

“If you create municipalities with more parks, bike trails, more hiking trails that make experiences easier, then I think you’re going to have a happier population,” he said.

With Valentine’s Day coming up, does this research mean you should give your honey a nice dinner or weekend getaway rather than a material present, such as a necklace or watch?

The issue of happiness conferred to others has been studied less, so the answer is unclear, experts said.

While Howell would expect this principle of experiences over possessions to still apply, Gilovich agreed that it may, but also points out that the act of giving or receiving an object as a gift is an experience in itself.

“Gifts of material possessions often become keepsakes and have sentimental value that increase with time, instead of diminishing like most material goods,” Gilovich said.