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Even the Dalai Lama says ‘Sometimes I get angry, too’

This story by ABC News Nightline, Dan Harris, has so much information and value.

 

Brain changes while Tibetan Monks meditate
Brain changes while Tibetan Monks meditate

Finally: Science is Thawing the Resistance to Mainstream Meditation

I understand that most people need science to justify new things that have been serving humanity for thousands of years. Believe me. I am a degreed electrical engineer who relies on logic for much of life and had to do a lot of training to balance out my thought processes to include more intuitive and creative thoughts. But that logical mind runs amok at times and prevents us from doing things that are good for us, especially practices that have proven to help some communities for hundreds of years.

AND the good news is that the re-burgeoning field of neuroscience, now that they have the equipment to do so, is measuring the immediate and noticeable impact on human’s brains while meditating. I caught part of the story on ABC’s Nightline last night and it was great!

Click the link below to see several very interesting short stories about meditation

Each segment has a different person and focus. Very well done!

Link: Meditation finds more acceptance in the mainstream

(I am looking for a way to embed this video on this page since ABC News doesn’t make it easy like other streaming sites do. Until then you will be rewarded by clicking the link.)

There are four segments from 1 to 8 minutes each. Each one is great

 

meditation in business
Meditation is making its way into Business

Segment 1: Benefits of meditation

It is estimated that 20 million Americans are regular meditators.

Look at the graphs of brain activity while meditating which shows a marked increase in activity. Soon after someone starts meditating the parts of the brain associated with compassion and awareness grow while the parts associated with stress shrink. Plus researchers found that these new meditators were less mean to each other and began to use ‘we’ instead of ‘I’, a sign of letting go of our controlling egos. Great solution to emotional self management, a skill that is needed by all.

They also mention how meditation has made it into some of mainstream America; in Fortune 500 Corporations, elementary schools, musicians, etc.

 

Tibetan Monk hooked up for meditation study
Tibetan Monk hooked up for meditation study

Segment 2:  An interview with the Dalai Lama

Even the Dalai Lama says that he loses his temper once in a while. He continues: if someone does not ever lose their temper then he doesn’t believe them. And if that’s true then they must come from some other space (indicating that they are aliens).

YIPPEE! I SO AGREE. We are not designed to be completely positive. This is a misconception about the impact of meditation. This validates my concept in this blog post Gossip & Effective Communication under ‘Positive Facades’. We are not designed to never have difficulty. We are designed to be authentic. Life is designed as a place where we continue to learn how to be greater. And at times there are ‘downs’.

Segment 3: Overview of meditation

A 1 minute introduction to meditation

 

Real Happiness by Sharon Salzberg
Real Happiness by Sharon Salzberg

Segment 4 – Book: Real Happiness

This is a discussion with Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Happiness. She is one of the US’s foremest meditation teachers. Dan Harris asks her about her childhood and how she overcame that through meditation. Interesting.

Summary

To my students and coaching clients: please listen to this as motivation to do your daily practice. Remember how it felt in class and make a choice to better your lives for your sake and for your family.

To anyone else: Check this out. Consider it. We have to do something different in life when we want a different outcome.

Trust the science over your internal resistance. Once you begin to do just a few minutes daily in a few weeks you will start noticing a difference to how you view yourself, view life and have more self control and direction. I have taught meditation in Spiritual Centers and through a scientific method that just takes minutes to practice and I still find value and an increasing inner strength plus a stronger sense of self. However you learn it, use it.

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Gossip & Effective Communication

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Gossiping

 

Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.        ~  Miguel Angel Ruiz, a great book ‘The Four Agreements’

(Some of you may read between the lines.)

I was extremely fortunate that once I had moved back from living in other countries being an engineer that I was referred to an incredible teacher, Frank Natale, who shattered my reality as I knew it; in good ways. He took people into the depths of their being and experiences beyond anything anyone could have imagined and beyond any teacher I have met to date… for those who were willing. It was all about being authentic to oneself, going into the depths of your own inner matrix and discovering who you are from the inside out. At times I consider it was boot camp for my soul… and just as tough with the best rewards ever.

One of the greatest lessons I learned from Frank was about gossip and effective communication. His trainings were experiential so he would set up exercises for you to learn lessons directly with the other participants. We learned the truth about the intent, behavior and content of gossip. And we learned what it says about the nature of the gossiper. These struck me deeply and altered the way I communicate with people, permanently. Thankfully this was when I was in my twenties.

Gossip is not the Truth

A cruel story runs on wheels, and every hand oils the wheels as they run.       ~  Ouida

The first thing to learn is that once one person tells a story to someone then that person says it to a second person then it goes to a third person and by now the content is different from what was first said. It begins to barely resemble the original story and will soon become a pack of lies. For the most part gossip is built on lies by the time you hear it. I have done this when I taught Effective Communication classes in business and spiritual centers and it always occurs.

gossip hurtsGossip operates with peoples’ unclean energies

Good gossip is just what’s going on. Bad gossip is stuff that is salacious, mean, and bitchy; the kind most people really enjoy.        ~  Liz Smith

The biggest lessons involved the ones learned by the heart and mind through those experiences. The personal energies involved in gossip are not clean. Think about the intent of someone who says bad things about someone else, especially if they never intend to resolve it to their face. Could there be anything positive that comes from talking about someone rather than talking directly to them? I know many people who walk away from gossip including myself. A person who gossips likes to work with negative energies. Like attracts like.

Gossiper’s intent

Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction, compared to the tongue of a Gossip.        ~  Richard Steele

If someone desires resolution then they do what is necessary to resolve things. When someone desires to harm someone else they do what is necessary to do so. Therefore the intent of the person who gossips is clear… it is a negative intent that comes from one’s own malice in her own heart.

Gossip is a Behavior

He gossips habitually; he lacks the common wisdom to keep still that deadly enemy of man, his own tongue.        ~  Mark Twain

The other thing to know about gossip is that if you listen to a person gossip about someone then you can bet your bottom dollar that when you walk away that same person will be gossiping about you to someone else. Gossip is a learned behavior. If a person gossips it is the way they have learned to do so. The good news is that we can always change our behavior once we become aware of it and desire to be better and better human beings.

Positive Facades are a dead giveawayGossip hurts

A real Christian is a person who can give his pet parrot to the town gossip.        ~  Billy Graham

Another truth is that those who you meet who claim to function effectively in a positive bubble are quite often the ones who have the most malicious intent in their hearts. These are the rosey optimists who have a nice façade but you do not dare want to go deeper and find the energy underneath. This is only natural. Life is about highs and lows and our control is in perceiving them and adapting appropriately. Those who think that their lives should be just positive do not handle criticism or feedback… therefore it builds up and becomes malice. This can be a result of some kind of substance abuse that is not fully healed.

Requirements for resolution

To resolve something with another person there are 3 basic requirements:

  1. Both people must be willing which means adjusting one’s personal frequency to the frequency of resolution
  2. Both people must talk to each other not about each other
  3. Both people must be willing to own their own truth in the matter and to listen to the other person’s truth in order to learn from it

Gossip does not solve anything since it is never addressed to the person for whom it would make a difference. It can never ever lead to resolution. Never! It exists at the frequency of ill intent towards others.

The Golden RuleGreat Rule

There is a great rule to follow:  Do not say anything about someone else that you have not or will not discuss with them. This takes the negative intent out of your communication.

I know that for me, having worked in global corporations and other companies after having this training I was not someone to hang out at the water cooler, so to speak. I adopted a habit of finding ways to excuse myself when someone would start to gossip. That is when I developed my internal points of reference where I could detect the energy of someone’s communication and tell if it was gossip as they began to talk. I have been known to just walk away. I do not choose to be in that energy and to facilitate malicious intent. It is under my conscious choice and control.

I know that through the years I have slipped at times and corrected myself. And I know that I have picked up the phone at times to speak directly with someone who was important to me to understand what I was hearing. Sometimes these became a great clearing leading to a closer connection with someone. This is an adopted behavior that has helped me to find authentic people to play with in life. It has made for less quantity of friends but much better quality of friends; people who are willing to be real with each other with minimal facades and use clear, honest and effective communication.

The Truth is always revealed about the Gossiper    Truth wins out

What I do know is that when there is gossip, give it enough time and quite often you will hear the truth about the originator of the gossip and witness how their malicious intent will come to the surface. Keep watching. The truth always surfaces. That is a law of life.

Note: I never have claimed nor will I ever claim to be perfect in everyone’s eyes. I do not desire to be that perfect presenter who claims no problems in life. My goal is to be authentic and to do my best to help others grow from my multidisciplinary trainings as a teacher. Therefore, as a teacher my life is transparent to those who desire to grow with me. Contact me if you hear something and desire clarity.

Very sincerely,

Lamar

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Amazing Grace in Action

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I just watched both parts of the Oprah Farewell Spectacular shows. Yes, they have been on my DVR since May 23 and 24. I didn’t want to see the end. Give me a break; have you ever visited the state of denial?

Intertwined with my love, my awe and my tears I feel such a deep and soul-felt gratitude for the multitude of gifts I have received from watching a lot of Oprah Winfrey shows over the years. I have received emotional, physical, mental and spiritual gifts in the forms of insights, ah ahs and self recognitions directly because of who she is. Her own recognition of who she is and her willingness to do what she is born to do while operating in the energy of an amazing grace is what is truly transmitted across the airwaves. It is who she is that people detect without realizing it.

I first found her show while living in Houston after having done the most profound and life-façade-shattering work with a man named Frank Natale, The Natale Institute. It is as if he helped me to excavate the path through the debris that was my upbringing to show me the depths that lay within me then Oprah joined in to show and teach me many steps along the way for the next 25 years.

Oprah is a human being who, it sounds like, never lost touch with her spiritual self. Watching Oprah being herself and getting better somehow made me want to be myself and get better. Thank you. Namaste

It makes me wonder…

What am I to do with the rest of my life?

What is Source’s vision for me that requires relying on a healthy partner?

How deeply will I go within myself to find the path to do so?

What about you?

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Maintaining Emotional Agility in Life | Who We Are, part 1

Bridge at Zilker Botanical Gardens in Austin, Texas
Bridge at Zilker Botanical Gardens in Austin (click to go to their site)

Life is a journey. Believing this helps in a person’s ability to 1) persist through the inevitable storms of life and 2) have a larger perspective on current life detail which helps to lessen stress.

Life is never going to remain absolutely awful as it will never always be continuously rosy. We live in a world of contrast where we have the opportunity to do what we want and be who we are. Sometimes difficult things happen in life and it hurts. Depending on the event and our current strength of self it will have an affect on different levels of who we are: emotional, energetics, mental, physical and/or spiritual.

I do not intend to make light of anyone’s circumstances, pains or difficulties. It is truly tough at times and sometimes we need a shoulder to lean on. I am also a spiritual counselor; if you are having a tough time and you want a positive affirmative spiritual prayer (non-denominational) then please contact me. [These are designed to effectively help you enhance your awareness, increase your connection to your Source and begin the healing process at its root foundation.]

Most hard knocks come with some kind of emotional pain since that is one of our senses that helps us to detect that it is difficult. Emotions have a strong energetic vibration kind of like sound does. Sound causes a movement of energy that is detected by the ears. Emotions cause a more visceral movement of energy within the body. It is the major energetic component of the event  This energy, when blocked, will store itself in the body. This ends up being that place in your body that always tells you when you are experiencing stress. You know, that shoulder that always hurts or that spot below the shoulder blade that is painful when there is a stressor in life. It tightens up or does more…

In other words when you stop your emotions from being expressed you stop the movement of this energy that is arising from within you so that it can be released. This energy was initiated by some life experience which then became a memory that is associated with this emotion/feeling.

This becomes an unresolved wound. Even if it was 1, 10 or more years ago it is still a wound. It is still affecting your life. You have just forgotten it. Just because you have pushed it aside means that it is affecting your perception of life. You are making decisions that avoid that wound. Your awareness of life is clouded in that area of life. If someone does anything that is remotely close to that original wounding event you will likely have some kind of re-action. The deeper the wound the stronger the re-action. The wound is forgotten but its effects remain.

Even when you have forgotten the event you have not released yourself from it; a part of you is stuck there. This is when people typically will say that it is not important to deal with it. It’s in the past, I can’t do anything about it now. What good would it do? It’s water under the bridge. Just suck it up and go on with life. Real men don’t cry.

All of those common sentiments are okay and life is a choice.

But consider this example: Someone who had taken my classes came to me for personal coaching. As we delved into what she thought was the issue it became obvious that there was a major pain in her past that was unresolved. I worked with her about forgiveness and recorded an audio guided mind cycle for her to use after the session. Within days she contacted me and said that she had not been able to move her head to the side without moving her shoulders with it for 15++ years. She had been to doctors and chiropractors and had found no relief. Then that morning on the way to work when she went to check behind her she easily and naturally rotated her head for the first time in all these years without even thinking about it. That emotional charge was gone. She was freed from that painful part of her past AND she had freed up that energy that was stuck in the past to be used in her present life.

Simply by doing the forgiveness process she released that original emotional pain and now her body had the mobility it is supposed to have.

Forgiveness is not done to let the other person(s) off the hook. Forgiveness is done to let yourself off the hook of that event so that you can move on in life. Once forgiveness is complete you will be able to recall the memory but the emotional charge will be gone…

And the process is not ever as frightening as one might imagine. It is NOT important nor valuable to relive the experience; that is an old school way of doing this process. With the skills I use of approaching it from your emotional/mental/energetic/spiritual levels you will touch upon it just enough to open those emotions so that they drain out of your body. And it is just old energy draining out of you so it is not as painful as your mind may perceive it will be initially. It may seem like a mountain to climb but it always ends up being a molehill.

Plus you will find that you have new energy for your life once this is done. You have freed up that old energy that sucks your current energy because a part of you has had to keep suppressing it.

Many people believe that if you hold onto emotional pains then they become dis-ease within your consciousness which then hardens to became a disease in your body. I tend to agree with this since it is now well known that 90% of all illnesses and headaches are caused by stress. And emotional energy causes stress within the body.

You are an emotional being along with spiritual, physical, mental and other layers. It is important to keep your emotional body fairly clear of old debris so that you can accurately detect what is in your life now using your clear emotional senses.

This is a part of who we are. Check back for other parts including Mental, Spiritual, Intuitive, etc…

I, as always, invite your comments, questions and other concepts.

In-Joy your Journey,

Lamar

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Ask the Right Question to Receive the Right Answer

Curiosity and Inspiration trump fear
Curiosity leads to Inspiration = trumps fear

 

When we are curious we receive new thoughts.

To Be receiving new thoughts is the prelude to receiving new things!

Now, you are on your way!


We are constantly tuning our personal frequencies (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) by what we think about and how we feel. The great news is that we have the free will and the response-ability to choose our thoughts and our feelings.

When you want to expand your life experience you have to expand your imagination, since this is the template for your life’s possibilities. When you desire better then imagine it better, first. Next, you start having new thoughts and ideas which you pick from amongst them to choose the selection of thoughts and ideas that you are now going to construct your ever-evolving template for pieces of your life.

A great and easy way to open up that mental channel for generating the new thoughts and ideas is to focus your mind simply by asking life-expansive, curiosity-laden questions.

When you ask the right question you get the right answer!

Compose some questions who’s answer(s) would move you forward on your goal(s) and contemplate them during idle mental time throughout your day. This is great to do while driving. Turn the radio off and play with your imagination. While exercising…

Examples of questions:

How can I flow with the stream of life to effortlessly receive my good?

What can I do today to feel joy?

How do I move aside?

What is my next inspired action to take?

I wonder how I can get my foot in the door at ____?

What one thing can I do differently today?

I am curious to see how this plan is going to unfold?

I wonder what someone thinks and feels throughout their day who has lavish abundance…
…Can I adapt their thoughts and feelings then rehearse them for me?

What doorway is about to open for me to ___?

What new thought will I have that leads me to this goal?

What will I really feel when I achieve this?

Show me how to do this!

What does someone who has the career of their dreams think about themself?

What’s the biggest, in the sense of best for me and others, dream I can conceive of?