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Thought Directs | Stay Flexible

Thought Creates Reality with The Natale Institute is a class I took in Houston after living in the Far East right out of college. I was about 28 years old and an electrical engineer and searching for deep answers about life. This was eye opening. It was six weeks of learning how thought creates reality through somewhat straight forward and lots of outside the box ideas that helped to change my life, my thinking about life’s possibilities, and my modus operandi

I still use these concepts, modified and added to, to set the direction I am going in life.

New ideas are always great to try out. Though, what really matters is results and experiences. That is when it impacted me to shake up the way I thought about me, my life and possibilities.

Choose Your Thoughts => Choose Your Life

Don’t adopt my beliefs. Use these new ways and witness your own results.

In a class, I tell people to not adopt my beliefs blindly. Consider your life to be a scientific experiment. A scientist changes an ingredient in the lab and witnesses the changed result. I encourage students to use the concepts. Then witness the resulting changes in life. When people make their own beliefs as a result of this, those beliefs stick and positively effect their life.

How flexible are you? No, not physically…

One of the biggest things I learned was to make sure I keep my thoughts and beliefs flexible. We age by trapping ourselves into a box that worked when we were 20-something. But at 50-something life is too tightly defined and new adventures are not given a second thought.

For example: When I got my driver’s license and a car the cost of gas was $0.57 per gallon. If I go to fill up with gas and get upset that gas costs so much more, then I am not living in life as it is. My old belief does not fit into current world I live in. I have created a mental situation that will always upset me. Personally, I do not want to set myself up for that upset. So, I change my beliefs to keep up.

We always have a choice.

Remain in our box, meaning the limits of what we think is possible, is one choice. This is when we feel cramped and our wings need to expand. Ever felt like you could not expand yourself in life? Kind of like claustrophobia in an energetic box that is too small. A person might become an old curmudgeon holding onto the past too tightly. Ever met someone set in their ways and beliefs so tightly? Ever been that someone?

Does your life box have room for you to expand?

It just pisses us off if reality now does not match reality as we think it should be. Take that as a sign to change something within.

So, what’s the other choice? Update our thoughts and beliefs to match the current NOW in which we live. Are you flexible in your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors? I found practicing these concepts I have been teaching and coaching for a while, help me feel younger than my physical age.

I have to remind myself when I get lazy about it…Lamar, remember. Keep going forward. Stay up with the times. Society evolves and so can you.

I am willing to have new experiences that are outside my life box. In fact, if my box feels way too tight or I am filled with fears and trepidation about my future…I will seek out a new experience that will blow my limiting life box to smithereens. Do not get me wrong. It is always scary. And I choose to do it anyway.

Kabooey! More room for personal freedom and expansion.

Scary as hell. Works so well.

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For the Brave & Broken-hearted by Brené Brown

There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers
than those of us who are willing to fall because we have learned how to rise.
With skinned knees and bruised hearts; we choose owning our stories of struggle,
over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.
When we deny our stories, they define us.
When we run from struggle, we are never free. So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.
We will not be characters in our stories.
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.
We are the authors of our lives. We write our own daring endings.
We craft love from heartbreak, compassion from shame,
grace from disappointment, courage from failure.
Showing up is our power.
Story is our way home. Truth is our song.
We are the brave and brokenhearted.
We are rising strong.

© 2020 Brené Brown, LLC.

Brené Brown is a Professor and Social Researcher at the University of Houston. I find the specifics she provides about the human condition to be enlightening and extremely useful. She approaches topics that are often avoided: shame, vulnerability, friendship, sharing, joy, perfectionism, more… I find the specifics that come from her research helps me know better ways to relate with myself and others.

Her site: https://brenebrown.com/ TED Talks listen here

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I especially enjoy her conversations with Oprah