For many people…
It is so much easier to close your heart than to heal it.
It is so much easier to avoid that difficult authentic conversation with a friend to clear things up and let your heart stay closed while damaging or ending that friendship.
It is so much easier to justify in your own mind why you are hurt and throw that pain on others rather than sharing it with a trusted friend to be able to let it out and let in some fresh air.
It is so much easier to throw out the skills that make your heart be able to love and share than to walk through the process to heal it.
It is so much easier to avoid authenticity, vulnerability, and intimacy – the skills of an open heart – than to cry some.
It is so much easier to close the door to a trusted friend when your heart is hurting.
It is so much easier to believe the gossip rather than talking authentically with the subject of that gossip.
It is so much easier to shut out the LIGHT of Life rather than walk through the unknown to nourish It.
When I write ‘it is so much easier to…’ the truth is it seems easier but is it?
…it seems easier, but is it? Really?
It seems easier only because you did not learn how to heal…yet.
To learn to heal is to Love Yourself, Others, and Life
Let me help as a licensed spiritual counselor since 1999.
Stop saying ‘time heals all wounds’
When your heart is hurting many people do what is easy: close off the heart, shut down the healing tears, and believe the saying that time heals all wounds. IT DOES NOT.
With time passing, you try to forget all wounds, burying them to become a part of the unconsciousness that drives your life choices…usually not in a healthy way.
It is often why you lash out at someone.
It is often why your depth of feelings are shallower than before.
It is often why you feel others are too distant from you while your closed heart creates this distance.
It is often why you feel separate from yourself and your dreams.
Where you come from within yourself is what you do to and for the world. What is your come from? Love? Fear? Skepticism? Doubt? Faith? Knowing? Pain?
Burying your pains
Those heart pains, those breakups, those friends who disappeared from you, those soured dreams, and those griefs just get buried.
With each burial you suppress your vulnerability (willingness to be ‘seen’ as is. No façade).
With each burial you lose your ability to feel as deeply again. Your friends, family, and lovers get less of your love and self-expression.
With each burial you begin to fear intimacy (in-to-me-I-see). You do not share what is in your heart.
With each burial you lose touch with your internal life guidance system, gps.
With each burial an authentic part of you dies off.
With each burial you feel more alone. Your ONEness with others originates in your heart center.
With each burial you can only do what you have already done. Life expansion is squashed. Curiosity dies. Exploration ends. Self-expansion stops.
With each burial your seeking a better life withers away.
With each burial you build your walls higher and higher.
With each burial you lose a piece of you.
With each burial you put a foot into your own grave.
With each burial you justify becoming a part of the haze of normality. I consider this sort of a zombie-like state doing what you’re supposed to be doing, being as you are expected to be, doing what you have always done, and never heeding what is in your heart center to do and to become.
You become untethered from your soul because a closed heart prevents that deep connection.
It then hurts to be truly ‘seen’, to put yourself out there again. So, you don’t.
You are disabling your heart strengths. You lose touch with your inherent ability to love, to see a friend as they are, and you become less of a Light in this world.
What does this do to you the next time you feel that ‘falling in love’ feeling? You cannot fall into your heart to feel and express that love as deeply as you used to. You draw people into your life who also have shut off much of their creative self-expression which requires heart skills.
What does this do to you when you meet that possibly great friend? You do not call or answer him. You are unable to experience that part of your heart center. Its energies are clogged and stuck.
What does this do to that dream that has been whispering to you?
How does this hamper that informed yet risky move you know you need to make?
These are just some impacts of how an unhealed heart affects your life.
Dance like nobody’s watching; love like you’ve never been hurt. Sing like nobody’s listening; live like it’s heaven on earth.~ Mark Twain
Expressions of love from your open heart
To feel what is in your heart is an expression of love.
To follow your internal life GPS is an expression of love.
To hang with a friend is an expression of love.
To make love is an expression of love.
To open up to romance is an expression of love.
To love fully like never before is an expression of love.
To follow your dreams is an expression of love.
To listen to your hunches, your intuition, is an expression of love.
To step outside your comfort zone seeking more and better is an expression of love.
You are unique
There is only one of you on this planet with all the specialness, gifts, quirks that you are.
This is your one life to find the gift that lies within your uniqueness and to be who you are.
To tap into the energy of love is a gift from Life that you are born with.
The energy of Love is your renewal, your rebirth, your infinite wellspring of wellbeing.
To express as love is to hug the world.
To live as an expression of love is who you are.
To shine the Light of Love through you shows others the way.
Your uniqueness is a gift to the world
You are unique just like each snowflake is unique. There will never be another person born like you nor has there ever been.
You are a unique slice of God’s expression on this planet. Lean into your differences. Your uniqueness is your piece of Life’s puzzle you bring to this life that the world needs.
Dare to give your love. TO BE it.
Be willing to love again beginning with yourself.
Dare to be you. Shed other’s expectations of who you should be.
Choose to define who you are.
Let the Love of Life show you the way by maintaining a pure connection to your heart center.
BEing the living, breathing expression of Love leads to you meeting the perfect mate or great friend or some fantastic opportunity.
Having done your healing, you will be available to say ‘YES’. You are willing.
You hold the golden key to your own heart. No one else has your master key.