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Awareness Exercise ~ Deep Meditation Tuesday ~ VAK Your Goals

Learn More ~ Know More ~ Be More

Awareness  Mindfulness  Meditation  Masterfulness

Suggested exercise to develop more dominion over life.

Gain awareness of how your thoughts drive your actions, behavior and interactions.

Start noticing the thoughts you have as you take actions and interact with others.

Thoughts create reality

Conscious + Unconscious thoughts lead to your experience of reality. Generally, a person’s conscious thoughts are up to 10% and unconscious thoughts up to 90%. Yikes! Thus it is good to gain awareness of those unconscious thoughts. This exercise helps.

Having the awareness of the thoughts that drive you activates your innate ability to change.

Schedule a reminder or put a rubber band on your wrist to remind you to do this throughout your day.

Invest in yourself and bettering your life. It pays lifelong dividends

A Sound Cocoon for Deep Relaxation & Meditation with Singing Quartz Crystal Bowls

“Amazing! Pure joy! Sublime”
“I’ve had trouble meditating because of pain in my body and was feeling that, but when we finished my body cracked in about 6 places and I felt lighter. Thank you!” ~ Gail M-G

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A primary reason to relax and meditate is to release life’s stressors, disharmonies and imbalances. THEN you can experience the deep connection to your Inner Center that aligns you to your good and your guidance. These sounds create a meditative cocoon in which you can go deeply within to find your Center & connect with your Good.

Join us for a deep relaxation in a cocoon of sound created by 3 quartz crystal bowls.

Private sound healing sessions available
Crystal Bowl Meditations are available for purchase

Tuesday, October 17, 2017  7-8:30pm
Center for Spiritual Living Central Texas
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VAK Your Goals Discount

Use your body’s intelligence to determine the exact right wording of your goal.

Then through a series of movements and words imprint this in your Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic bodies. Once imprinted you will naturally be guided to achieve it.

Identifying and Imprinting your Goal + Follow-Up and support $150

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Your Mental Garden Guided Meditation Tele-Class

Cultivate Your Mental Garden

You are just One New Thought away from what you want in life!

Are your thoughts worrisome or optimistic?
,,,Supportive or self-sabotaging?
……Loving or Fearful?

The thoughts you have lead to the life you live. This is the way life works. The old thoughts of worry and pains of the past can be replaced with new thoughts of abundance, ease and joy. Then life will start heading in that direction.

Most people do not realize that their thoughts can be changed. Weed out the bad thoughts like you pull weeds from your garden. Plant seeds of thoughts of how you want life to be. Nurture them and your life will begin to change to match your thoughts.

Experience a guided mindfulness journey of finding your current mental garden of thoughts. Then create a new current mental garden by weeding the old one, turning the soil and planting the seeds of new thought.

In the emailed Cultivate Your Mental Garden Guidebook:

  • Before the class, you will receive a “Cultivate Your Mental Garden Guidebook” via email.
  • Work with this brief guidebook, contemplating and making choices to help you choose the thoughts to work with.

Agenda in the class

  • Open with a short guided meditation to get centered and connected to the othes
  • Discussion of thoughts and choosing your thoughts
  • I will lead you in mindfully creating, weeding and planting your mental garden
  • Discussion and Q&A

You can purchase the guided meditation as an MP3 file, at a reduced rate, to use on your own.

BIO: One thing people often say I excel at doing is leading these sort of focused mindfulness processes and meditations. Sample my meditations and talks at SoundCloud.com/MindTechnology; there is a 40-day series that enhances abundance.

I am an electrical engineer who has lived and worked globally. While in the Far East I took a class in Malaysia that taught me precision thinking at age 24. That mixed with an inner voice I’ve heard in my life to spark a lifelong passion to learn how to utilize a world of skills that lies within each of us to make life all about peace, love and fulfilling achievement.

Your deliberate thoughts create deliberate life experiences. Practice choosing your thoughts and watch your life change. Doing this teaches you that you can direct your life.

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Achieve using your brain’s design. Increase focus and ease. Decrease stress and struggle

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Achieve using your brain’s design. Increase focus and ease. Decrease struggle and stress.

Achieving Greatly through Mind Integration

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In this world, we are educated and socialized to use our left brain, which has to do with the logical thinking. However, the ability to alter something in our life exists in accessing the right brain as well, the intuitive mind.

In this class, we will learn to access whole brain thinking, based on applied brain science. This trains us that we can maximize the use of our right, intuitive brain as much as our left, logical brain, becoming more deliberate about our lives, directing our thoughts for internal and external change, and achieving our goals, whether they be career, health, wellness, mental or physical.

When you manage your mind while you discover powerful inner skills you can write your life’s script.

There are multiple perspectives to someone changing from being reactive to life to being able to generate their life.

From an applied science perspective, this is simply a way for you to use your brain as it is designed to cause your life through deliberate choice. This is using left/right brain integration skills.

A quantum perspective enables us to work with the unseen creative forces that cause life so that we direct our own life and achievements.

From an energetic perspective, we learn to directly alter our energies thus directly changing our life and internal state.


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April 29 – 30

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What if you could bend the matrix of reality to have the life of your dreams?

We do live in a multidimensional reality

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Bend the Fabric/Matrix of Life

+ We have free will and choice of what we think

+ Our thoughts lead to our life

+ We have within us the skills, once learned, that lighten up life while improving it and allowing for a more fulfilling life of achievement, self-direction and self-management.

To the question at hand… Bending the matrix of reality 

Yes, you can bend reality and you are doing this yet are simply unaware  that your thoughts cause the results in life.

Thus my favorite topic… How do we tap into our inner potential to alter life?

I first learned precise thinking and visualization to cause a change within me or externally in life, in Malaysia as a young engineer living and working in Indonesia. These skills directly empowered me to improve my job performance significantly. And management started noticing my achievements and performance under those stressful and sometimes dangerous situations.

It truly is nice to be able to choose your desired behavior, task performance or pain release through lining up your thoughts in a precise manner leading to achieving with greater ease, less struggle.

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Find a better path through reality to what you want in life

When we make choices about what we want in life and practice living them within our own trained imagination we are literally programming our brain neurons to be able to recognize and act upon ‘the goal’ when opportunities start coming to us. It also sends out energy from your body’s energetic system to move the matrix of reality creating a path leading towards the desired result.

This may sound fanciful or too science fiction and it happens to be true.

As an affirmed geek I just luv this stuff. And it is practical, repeatable, follows laws and principle of the unseen forces that cause life, and leads us to becoming who we want to become.and to achieving what we are impelled to achieve.

Procedure to bend reality to be a path to achieve your results:

  • Select a relaxed atmosphere inside or outside
  • Find that ‘just right’ position to sit and get relaxed
  • Close your eyes
  • Place you attention on the airflow going in and out of your nostrils and mouth as you breathe in through your mouth
  • Hold it for a few seconds at the top then exhale deeply
  • Continue breathing in and out as your body and mind relax
  • Tell unwanted thoughts to float on like a cloud in the sky
  • Create in your imagination, using your senses, of having the result you are choosing to create in your life
  • Be sure to generate the emotions of having it. This fuels it
  • Enjoy
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Snoopy flying his doghouse. So can you with great ease.

Spend a few minutes in the morning, midday and evening doing this.

Watch what life starts bringing you as new ideas and opportunities.

Click on Snoopy to the right or here to review my upcoming class that teaches these skills. Achieving Greatly, April 29-30 in Austin, Texas.

This is a one-of-a-kind class that synthesizes 3 independently effective methods to bring forth that inner power you hear about but don’t understand until you experience it.

Lamar Irwin    #amomentswisdom

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As Easily As I Breathe I Receive Abundance…in All Forms

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You Are Born AS Abundance

The link in the picture Facebook.com/SpirituallyAwaken is my Spiritually Awaken Circle.

Click the picture to go to a series of 40 days of intuitively guided meditations based on The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price. These are at my SoundCloud.com/MindTechnology. Click Playlist: The Abundance Program – Daily Meditations. Listen daily for 40 days and your consciousness will evolve into the Truths about Abundance and where it comes from.

Let me know the results 🙂

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Physically I’m on Earth, Mentally I’m in the Galaxies and Spiritually I’m in a Whole Other Dimension

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An expansive state of being

Physically I’m on Earth, Mentally I’m in the Galaxies and Spiritually I’m in a whole other Dimension

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The Dimensional Expansion of the Mind. A personal journey. Published

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Leverage Your Perceptive Filter on Life to Your Benefit

Do not let the world make you hard
Believe In Good and in You

Some beliefs I have learned and developed to support my journey include:

I am free and open to new experiences                                                  I am willing to change

I am designed from the inside out for success and…

…I live in a supportive universe that proactively supports my best life

Miracles happen daily. Why not in my life? I anticipate them.

Develop your own that supports your uniqueness and unique way you do life

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Perception is the human ability to justify whatever reality a person already believes to be…

Human perception is clouded by the human design.

Beliefs in what is possible, values in how life should be, moral judgements, conclusions made in unhealed past experiences, gossip you heard about someone, peer’s beliefs, family conditioning for life, and on and on… each is a filter to the lens that is between the raw reality of one’s physical reality and the cut, edited and deleted input your conscious thought perceives and you experience.

Think of it this way. When you put on a pair of glasses with a colored lens everything has that color tint to it. And there are colors and areas of life that cannot be seen with these glasses.

When we stay within our own life boundaries and beliefs that is all we can perceive in life as possible. Anything outside our self-defined life boundaries is sometimes not heard or recognized because of a person’s perspective filter. And the perspective filter is different for every single person on the planet. It is a wonder we can ever find agreement.

We are designed to see beyond our current perspective filters

Our physical eyes can only see until there is a wall, fog or physical obstruction. Our physical olfactory sense works as long as the fragrance makes it to the nasal passage in the face. Our ears can hear a sound as long as that vibration makes it to our ears. Touch works as long as it is within arms reach. And taste can only taste things that are on the tongue; of course smell has a lot to do with taste.

Thankfully we are born with a Spiritual Layer to us that has broader perceptive abilities beyond what the human senses can detect. There is a spiritual (energetic) sense for every human sense. We can hear, see, touch, taste, feel and know beyond the limits of the physical senses using these spiritual senses.

The third eye is the spiritual eye that can see beyond obstacles, around corners and through darkness in life thus guiding us beyond what we can physically see. The spiritual sense is without limitations like walls, dark periods in life, length limits of arms for touch, location of nostrils for smell, distance between ears and sound, etc, obstacles, difficulties, pains and more. They help guide us even when life has disturbances, disruptions, and the like.

We are designed so well for self-determination. We have free will to choose what we think, feel and do. No one can control that except us. And what we think is the beginning to what is experienced in life. We can learn methods to lift up our eyes from the human condition and the physical senses when life is not to our liking. This opens us up to a spiritual perspective, the intuitive mind and much inner guidance that will provide new ideas and a sense of direction.

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                                  The 3rd rock from the sun. Get a new perspective on life.

Change your perspective.

Take a weekend trip.

Disconnect from reality for a day.

Imagine being in space.

Work with someone trained to coach you out of your accumulated life muck into a fresh perspective on life where your forgotten dreams, too-good and to-do ideas are still possible. This is a beautiful process to catalyze within someone.

Intellectual Freedom, Carpe Diem and Be True to Yourself – Post about a great movie to watch.

Come have your inner energies cleansed, altered and aligned in a refreshing energy massage…

P.E.A.C.E. Personal Energy Alignment, Clearing and Expansion Session

When I do a P.E.A.C.E. Personal Energy Alignment, Clearing and Expansion Session for someone…almost every time they have a big change in life. Their perspective changes totally aligns more towards their true nature which is good, abundant, skilled, focused, etc.

One lady called me the next day and told me that when she got home after our session her dogs were not barking and her 2 children were getting along. The dogs have never not barked when she got home and her early adulthood children, one with special needs, did not get along together. She called to tell me that THEY had changed. I offered the truth is that SHE had changed.

One thirty-something man was walking down South Lamar Blvd the day after wondering to himself what kind of man he wanted to grow into. At that moment there was a book on the sidewalk right next to his foot that was titled What Kind of Man Are You?

What little miracle would serve you?

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40 Days of Intuitively-Guided Abundance Meditations… Directly Increase Abundance thru Consciousness

Abundance in All Areas of Life
To Align your Consciousness to the True Source that is Inherently Abundant is to have any level of abundance you want, desire and dream of. Do you believe that is possible? Why not give it a shot?

An Opportunity to Directly Enhance Your Life through Your Consciousness

             And directly change your abundance in any area of life.

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I began doing 40 days of 15 minute intuitively-guided abundance meditations on January 17, 2017. The final one will be on February 25, 2017. These occur at 8am CST via teleconference. Then the better quality audio is uploaded to my site for my audio (meditations, talks, podcasts, contemplations) at www.SoundCloud.com/MindTechnology

Listen to them daily from whenever you start. It is best to hold yourself accountable to be persistent and do day 1 through day 40 in 40 days not missing a single day. If you do then it is best to restart at day 1. This is a gentle lesson to develop an ability to trust yourself that you will do what you say to yourself that you will do. “Be impeccable with your word.” The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price ~ an excerpt from the beginning of the book

Read it on a Kindle. I like using mine.

Abundance in this book is defined as an all-sufficiency of supply, a full measure of infinite good. In the invisible, it’s the creative energy of God, also called Substance. In the visible world, it’s that energy made manifest as money and every other good thing required for a free and harmonious life in this third-dimensional world.”

“There are certain principles of abundance, specific fundamentals for Truth, which, when realized, will free an individual from lack and limitation. Since there are spiritual precepts, a program for prosperity based on Truth can’t be implemented by those with greed, avarice, or selfishness in consciousness.”

“… You must think of money and any other material desire or possession simply as an outer symbol of the inner supply. [sic] The Idea is an all-sufficiency of supply to meet every need with a Divine surplus in your individual life. [sic] But the money isn’t the supply. Rather, it’s your consciousness of God as your abundance that constitutes your supply.”

Contact me for the Companion Prosperity Journal.

Donations for these meditations are welcome. I want to get this to more people. And I’m considering doing another series when this one is done. Donations will help. Thanks

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Today is Day 1 of 40 Days of Abundance Meditations… Create More Abundance in all areas of life

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The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price

Today, I began day 1 of 40 days of 15 minute meditations based on this classic abundance program. This is a way to find freedom and abundance from completely different concepts about where abundance comes from. Abundance in all areas of life, love, relationships. success, dollars, material possessions and more.

This is part of a 6-week empowerment class that a team of 4, including me, began January 16, 2017: Say YES To Your Heart’s Desire in 2017 – Facebook Page. This class will break into 3 Groups to help people focus on their goal area outside of class: Career/Business Action Team, Calling In The One Relationships, and Health and Well-Being. If you are in the Austin area contact me to join us. 

If you want to simply listen to each day’s meditations they will be posted on www.SoundCloud.com/MindTechnology. If you want the dial-in information to listen by phone contact me through this page.

There is a companion Prosperity Journal. If you want to participate at that level contact me through this page and indicate so.

Share results, insights and questions to comprehend this even better.

“Live long and prosper.” Spock

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Awakenings in Life Bubble Up From A Heart, Seeking to Open the Mind to a More Expansive Life and…

Heart Energies Awaken and Transform

To open your heart is to expand your field of vision in life, your depth of perception and your ability to receive love, joy, gratitude, well-being and to connect deeply with others.

Awakenings arise from the heart intelligence.

When you shut off your heart center all of that expansiveness closes off.

The world becomes black and white, stale and limited. You go back to judgment of others and a belief in separation.

This is the domain of the logical mind which is the source of the egoic awareness. Its purpose is to not change…at all costs keeping all current life pains, limitations, problems.

Each of us has multiple intelligence centers in our human system. The brain has two and the body has many with two as the brain for the body’s intelligence centers. Each intelligence center has a different energy that arises with a thought to help us move the idea into action. More to come…

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Life is not against me. Life is absolutely on my side. Learn to use it for your good

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Life is not against me. Life is absolutely on my side.

Always and Proactively on my side beginning in every cell, chromosone, thought, feeling and inner guidance.

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Certain things catch your eye…pursue only those that capture the heart

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Words of Wisdom
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Withholds, Those little things that remain unsaid or unasked between you and someone cause…

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You have a friendship, a working relationship, a bromance or a romance with someone and suddenly you feel a little less heart from him or her. Slowly or quickly that person closes off to you. You do not understand or know what happened. And most people do not ask difficult questions to clarify things and many people will not tell the truth in difficult conversations. That seems to be the societal norm.

What happens between people in all kinds of relationships that slowly separates them? Of course there could be other specific reasons for that. I want to cover a phenomenon that some people may not be aware of yet. An impact on relationships that stems from the societal norm of being nice or the fear of being authentic. Maybe it is the lack of trained skills to develop and deepen relationships.

Foundation for this approach to communication

Effective Communication is when both people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. More details on this at this blogpost

We create these blocks that can be called ‘withholds’ between people and we do not realize the impact on our closeness.

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Every time you judge someone for something you lay a brick between you and them.

Each time you do not clarify a misunderstanding with someone you lay more bricks between you and them.

When you hear something contrary about someone and spread that to others you lay more bricks in a wall of separation.

When you say something about them behind their back you continue building a wall of separation.

You are putting up a brick in an eventual wall of separation if you keep judging that person without communicating with them.

This wall within you then distorts any perspective on that person. It affects your ability to see him or her accurately. The wall begins to fully separate as all past clarity gets obfuscated and covered up.

Then consider the fact that inter-human communication is at least 90% nonverbal and we realize that person has nonverbally picked up on our thoughts that separate us, also.

And we wonder why we have a hard time connecting with people in general. Our perspectives, walls and other foibles distort the clarity of who they are within our mind and who we are in their mind.

Walls that separate. Walls of our own doing.
Walls that separate

Any brick we do not reexamine to see if it can be dissolved will maintain separation.

Do yourself a favor – seek clarity – because there is an additional truth about these thoughts of separation. They exist within your mind and each of them is a block holding you from your own good. Even if the person is to move out of your life it is best done clean. Heal then do conscious separation.

Why am I writing more about interrelation communication?

It is easy to say you want to be more spiritual or be a better person. In the beginning good and new things are happening as your heart and mind open up. As you deepen that way of being in life you will have some periods where things are rocky, the shadow journey that brings such great rewards for those courageous enough to proceed through it. Find those people who will be empowered and empowering throughout life or the lifetime of a project.

Ideas for practicing this

Take a breath and relax. Hold the desire to be clear with this person in your heart. Ask the person if you could talk privately.

When you do meet: Preferably sit across from each other knees to knees almost touching. No barriers. If it’s true for you, then say how difficult it is to ask this or say this. Then ask it in a non-accusatory way; be curious with it.

And listen with your ears, brain and heart. Respond from clear thinking not defenses.

When you hear something derogatory about someone, do you and them a favor. Do this especially if this information conflicts with your previous experiences with that person. Take a breath and say something like hey, I heard something about you that I wanted to tell you (or to ask you about).

Some of us have so many breaks within us including me. This was a big relief and I am grateful that I learned authentic life skills like these in my twenties. I have been practicing as much as I could as I find people or rarely groups who resonate with this level of authenticity and are willing to do it. This authentic approach sometimes does not work for some people.

My training with The Natale Institute has kept me away from gossip which means ultimately you become the subject of gossip. Some people have to throw shade at others. Watch this truth: If you are listening to someone gossip then you can rest assured that the person who was talking gossip about someone else to you will now turn and gossip about you to that someone else. It is not up to you. It is that person’s behavior. Make a choice as to what you want to be around.

[Watch for a future post about the intent and impact of gossiping.]

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