Think about it. Normally, to change something in life there is a logical process to do so. We all know how to do this, well.
This is a different approach to manifest something you want in life. You will be tapping into the Laws of Life that are unseen. Everything comes from the unseen realm and eventually returns to the unseen realm. There are Laws that govern the unseen realm just like there are natural laws that govern the physical, the seen realm.
Try this out as a personal experiment. Choose something light, fun, and with no serious attachment. When you have it in life you will be proving to yourself that it works. Repeat your experiment on the second item. Once you have proven to yourself that it works…Then pick something that is not so light or has some heavy attachment.
This is also a great way to start expanding your life beyond the box in which you are currently living. This is an alternative way to live the life you desire.
Get a piece of paper and pen and sit somewhere comfy.
Write down the negative item or circumstance. Make it personal using the first person. Example: At work, I feel ____. My relationship needs something. ___ isn’t working for me anymore.
Observe the thoughts you have about this negative item in your life. Have you had thoughts or beliefs that align with this result in life? Be honest with yourself. Write this below the negative item.
Take a moment to become mindful of the connection between
your thoughts and this result in life. Do you see a connection? Is there a
feeling within you that matches this result in life? In other words, what
feeling do you have that comes with this undesired result?
Reflect for some more moments… How does this make you feel?
Above the negative item you wrote, write ‘I do not want this
in my life’ or something like that.
Turn it around. Take ownership of creating what you want in
If you had the option to change this negative item, would
Answer that, then consider the following…
Think about this undesired feeling. How would you rather feel in that area of life? What feeling do you want to have concerning this area of life when it improves? Imagine feeling it.
Skip a line or 2, then write ‘I choose this result in my
life’ or something like that.
Below that, write ‘I feel (your chosen feeling)’.
Now, consider this item you do not want anymore. What would
you like instead that will make you feel how you want to feel? Just play with
it. Play goes with imagination. You get to make up something new in life in
order to manifest it. Could be fun. It could work.
Write down what you desire to have in life, on the next
Here comes the thread that weaves together the way you
choose to feel with the new desired item in life.
You might take some time with this.
What thoughts align with having this desired feeling that leads to the chosen positive result? This is you backtracking to see what possible thoughts could support having the positive result you want. I have found that it works to think of someone who already has close to what I want to manifest. What thoughts must they have which lead to them having this? Adjust those for you. I actually, once, asked a friend who had a relationship I liked: “What are your thoughts and beliefs about this?” I then adopted her thoughts…they worked for her. Why not?
Use the power of your mental focus
Sit back, take a deep breath, and relax. Imagine that you already have this positive desired result. Feel it. What does it smell like? Taste like? Look like? Sound like? Feel like? Do you feel the feeling you chose you want to feel as you imagine it? This is your mental playground. Play with it.
In this, contemplate a new thought or new belief that supports your desired outcome. This thought would naturally lead to all of this becoming real. Make it up. Play with it. It does not have to be perfect. You can always change it with more clarity.
Once you think and feel you have it, write it down on the next line.
Ideas to fine-tune it
Finally, craft the thought into a more empowering thought.
This is done by:
Stating it as if you have it now. Not when something else happens. Now. It is done and in your life.
Do not use words that separate you from having it now, such as may, might, will, hope, etc.
Weave the feeling into the statement. I am thrilled with my new car. It feels good going to my job. I really like the new person I’m dating. I love visiting and exploring Bali.
Don’t make it heady. Make it visceral so that you feel it when you think of it. This fuels it into becoming real.
Write this thought next. This is a supportive thought.
Past precedent does not dictate future outcomes.
Letting go of the old
Now you have a piece of paper with what you do not want, its supporting thought and feeling. When you feel absolutely ready to change it, use a red marker to make a definite X over it with a feeling of ‘it’s gone. I am ready for the new’. The red X is a strong signal to your mind.
Tear that part off. To release something and its energy, it is best to either burn it or flush it. Do either safely while letting go of it in your mind and your heart.
Creating the new
What I tend to do to make sure I am focusing more and more on my chosen desired item, is to write it on an index card and carry the final statement with me. For some, I have written it on post-it notes and stuck it on the mirror, the door frame, the car dashboard, on the electronic calendar, anywhere to keep it in your face.
At any time you think of the old unwanted…quickly recall your new chosen thought with the feeling that goes with it.
Be gently vigilant about doing this. In a short time, the old unsupportive thought and feeling fade away as you are choosing the new supportive thought and feeling.
This is your new thought. Own it. Repeat it and imagine it often and it will become your normal thought which will lead to it happening in your life.
There is a power for good in this life that is all around you, within you, and supporting you.
You have now initiated a change you want. Be patient.
As long as you continue to choose it and feel it despite no indication of it happening, it will happen. You are taking action every time you imagine it and feel it as if it is in your life now.
Remember this is an experiment. Keep at it and watch what ideas come, doors open, meet the right person, other ‘coincidences’…and sometimes it just comes right to you.
When you have manifested this, take time to congratulate yourself and contemplate how it came about. Then, you are ready for the next thing to change in your life.
If you are reading this, you are ahead of the game. Most will sit in their haze of normality instead of doing something different…which leads to having something different. You are taking your power back to live a more desired life.
I met Michael Thurman and his partner at the time socially, at a MEETUP Group. We met some and talked over coffee. They invited me over for Thanksgiving. I always bring home made pecan pies.
After a great meal experience we all relaxed and chatted as their miniature pig, bird, cat, and dog found attention. The cute hyper billy goats were outside in the pen. A property line was either the Guadalupe or Colorado river.
He told me about being in pain his entire life. We talked and I told him about training his mind to handle pain in order to eliminate it. After all he had been cut, medicated and diagnosed he did not really believe what I was saying would work.
I gave testimonials and my own experiences and answered his questions.
He has a spinal implant that intercepts the pain signals going to his brain with a control knob implanted under his skin where he can adjust the level. You are not in pain if that chemical signal does not reach the brain.
As I was getting ready to go, he told me he was taking morphine twice a day and taking several Oxycontin pills daily. I do not know how he functioned so well on his small farm and restoring furniture business, some for Hollywood sets. Beautiful work.
I offered him four phone sessions if he wanted to control his pain with his mind.
Michael was eager to get out from under the system that took an implanted device and two toxic medications to maybe get his pain under control.
The only side effect of managing your pain through
directed thought is increased self-mastery.
Overview of the sessions with him
I had emailed him a manual. I taught him how pain travels in the body, gets amplified by our thoughts and stress level, and the relaxation response. Also, pain is not continuous; it is in pulses of signals sent from the body to the brain where it is registered as pain. It is a series of pulses with a pause in between pulses. An Eastern technique is to identify, then expand the pauses. I like this PHD technique since the pain is gone quickly.
Then, I prepared him for the upcoming mind training to relax mind, body, and energy; the Empowering Whole Relax, i.e. The Wisdom Method.
I guided him through this forty-minute thought-focusing cycle to relax his body, mind, and inner energies and enter into the optimal brain level for releasing pain while reprogramming the brain neurons to make changes for this particular skill to become natural.
He received the 2 audio files to practice and deepen the mental program until the next session.
Michael reported that he turned off the neuro-stimulator implant after our first session. Yea! Michael is ahead of the game. Good.
We discussed his pain level which was already
reduced. Then into more detail of the causes for his pain. From that, I told
him some about visualizing those areas of the body to heal and how to do that.
PHD – Pain Headache Discomfort Shift
As with all these mind smart skills, I first explain what we are going to do to his logical mind. This is educational and to make sure it goes along with the new stuff for the brain.
Then I helped him upgrade his brain with this new Smart Skill. I invited him to sit comfortably then guided him into the optimal brain upgrade mode using his breath and mental focus. As I am speaking the new Smart Skill to him, the brain’s neural pathways begin to alter representing the new skill is programmed and usable.
Through this PHD Smart Skill, Pain, Headache, Discomfort shift into ease and comfort. This is a short, less than 5 minutes, process to eliminate the pain. As you continue to use it, the process becomes quicker.
We discussed the optimal way to use this PHD quick pain relief technique. I gave him some other pointers and we ended the session.
He went to the South Austin pain clinic for his regular appointment.
His doctor and PA were surprised at the decrease
in his pain level.
His pain doctor was thrown off guard when Michael said he wanted to start reducing the morphine and other meds. The doctor and PA asked him how he could do that.
Michael told them that he is working with a man (me) who is teaching him how to direct his thoughts to eliminate his pain. The Physician Assistant told Michael I am getting better results than their own trained pain coaches. (I wish they want to learn what I am doing?) I encouraged him to give them all my contact information. He did.
He reports he has been out of pain for a while. When a spasm starts, he stops it right away with the PHD quick pain relief technique. His morphine intake is reduced and he has only taken 3-4 Oxycontin pills in the last month when he used to take more than that daily. I reinforced one of the techniques and we discussed how he will use this moving forward.
This was a wrap-up session for questions and tips. I did take him through a process of visualizing the healing and the nerve growth speeding up through his scar tissues.
People are often amazed at the results of a trained mind with useful Mind Smart Skills. It is so innate that I cannot fully explain it. Each person realizes all this once they experience it.
Great News: Lifespan increases & Brain component comes alive
He had a blood test that measures lifespan based on the medicine a person is taking. Great result!
His lifespan had increased from taking less medicinal toxicity.
AND something I did not know: his pituitary gland had been declared dead by doctors. NOW it is alive and working. Awesome results.
I also gave him specific pointers to speed up the regrowth of nerves through scar tissue where he had numbness. Lots of cutting on his body.
More than a year after working with him, he was in a bad accident. EMS had to cut him out of his truck. The EMTs told him that he should not have been able to walk out of that. He had sat in his car and used the Empowering Whole Relax and the pain elimination techniques. Thus, he was able to walk out fine.
This is so useful and better than all those drugs and their side effects.
Note: I am sure there may be certain situations where the medications are needed. When I work with someone with an illness I have them inform their primary care provider.
So far, all students and clients have successfully used this PHD pain relief Smart Skill.
A pill or mental focus; whichever works.
You carry it with you, in your brain’s software, ready to use it at a moment’s notice, when needed. And the side effects include: self-management and shifting into pain and peace in mind and body quickly on-cue along with a true sense of freedom in life. Plus you will use this for the rest of your life.
The body heals itself in the right conscious environment
Later there was better news.
Within a year after we stopped sessions he was totally off all pain meds and the implant has remained turned off. He saves dollars and is bolstering his sense of well-being in life and his control over his own thoughts.
Seeking medical school, professionals
I write this in all caps: I KNOW THERE ARE MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS INTERESTED IN HELPING PATIENTS BY EMPOWERING THE INNATE ABILITIES OF THE BODY TO HEAL. IT JUST TAKES TRAINING. CONTACT ME!
Truly, as an engineer, I have taken this knowledge and direct experience and made it usable. Let’s empower the patient and bring forth their own innate healing abilities.
Remember that Michael and I did this over the phone.
Michael gave me explicit permission to use his
name in any way that would get the word out. Some of his Facebook posts are
Letter sent to a pain management clinic in South
I mailed a letter to the pain clinic, directly
to his pain doctor and PA. I asked to coordinate my notes with his doctor
visits to produce a report that could be used. I offered to show them how it is
trainable with repeatable results. Give me a white board and marker, I can show
it to anyone.
I heard nothing. You draw your own conclusions.
The rest of this post are Michael’s Facebook posts talking about his use of this PHD pain relief technique.
Do you know someone who can benefit? You?
I enjoy working with a client, a class, when I witness
how they have gained more self-mastery.
Army class experience
There are so many testimonials. I have to share this and will make it short. I had the fortune to train some Fort Hood Army folks in a wellness center a student of mine had opened up. Day one, two of the things they learned were the foundational Empowering Whole Relaxation and the PHD pain relief techniques.
Sunday morning, before the second day of class, I am watching Lionel shifting in his chair and looking around. I asked him what’s going on? He said he has had back pain for years and it was gone. I joked and said: well, stopping looking for it; what a teacher told me in my twenties. Then, I congratulated him. As everyone was sitting down, they commented their pains were also gone. Amazing how many people in the Army carry pain.
That is the first time that happened without doing the technique. It was in the air, it seems…where it worked for the collective of folks who were learning these sets of Smart Skills as they walked into the room. An enlivening energy was definitely present.
This is a tough year into next year. We all have to dig deep to manage it all. The one thing we can control is to put a smile on our faces and feel the love in our hearts connecting us. What we can safely pass on to others is a smile…
Channels for Intelligence in the Brain: Logic & Intuition/Creativity
Have you ever wondered if the thoughts in your head are just the way life is?
The brain is an actively changing organ in the head that weighs about 3 pounds. It has electrical impulses that we call thoughts. Neurons, neural pathways, and neural density hold the software in your brain. This is like the software on your computer and smart devices.
Just like changing the software on your computer, you can change the ‘software’ in your brain.
To answer the above question: You are in charge of your thoughts. If you do not like what they do to you, then change them. Gain Mind Mastery.
Scientifically validated. Brain Neural Programming, BNP, is the only alternative empowerment method that has passed rigorous scientific standards for its effectiveness.
The way you think, talk, re-act, act, behave, choose life, handle or not handle stress, walk, etc: ALL of that is a result of early childhood brain neural programming, BNP, by family in early childhoow.
The way you lift your arm, the way you think about everything, the way you lift a pen, if you are sure or demonstrative, the way you put on your clothes… every single aspect of the movement of your body is a mental program.
Now, how many of you went ‘oh shit’ to that? Many people grew up in great families where these childhood learned programs work. Great. Don’t change those.
And some of us grew up in varying degrees of dysfunctions and worse. Change that!
I definitely did not want to be like my family’s severe dysfunctions and abuses. So, my spirit led me to start learning how to do life better as soon as I left home for college.
Identify the thought patterns and behaviors you want to change. Then, change them. What are the mental processes you want to improve? Manage stress to make wiser decisions? Get rid of pain without medicine? Visualize what you want working with the way your brain is designed to work.
How many years did you go to school as you grew up into young adulthood? You learned some useful skills in english, science, math, arts, etc. What did this do?
Schools trained you to have the skills to do tasks in life.
That is what I am doing for you in class or sessions so that you learn inner management skills that are useful in life. You learn to use your thoughts and that when you do this, you gain more direction over yourself, thus the life you choose.
First, we go over the skill you are about to learn and how it will benefit you. This is done as in all the classes you have taken: eyes open. Next, you close your eyes to shuts out 80% of stimulation. I guide you to turn your attention from outside of you to within yourself; your internal workings. Through a script and audio, we change the software in your brain for you to gain a multitude of useful skills.
A skill I wish I would have had in college is the A+ Student Skills. These train your brain how to study less and have more playtime…all while increasing your grades. Those who use these mostly graduate with honors.
What is your motivation for change? Internal and external?
When I guide you to make these changes using a script and a sound, your brain begins to rewire its neural programming, right then and there. These skills are immediately useful. Audio files of these skills help you continue them on your own. Continued use does something I never thought possible…your brain begins to develop in new and beneficial ways. And the techniques become useful in mere moments.
Synopsis of how and why it works.
The brain operates at various frequencies for different modes of operation. In general, the higher the frequency the more you are eyes open doing life. As the frequency lowers the advanced use of the brain gets stronger. The higher the frequency the more you are living in just the material world as measured by your five physical senses. The lower the frequency the more you are living in the infinite potential of Quantum Energy and Quantum Intelligence. At the lower frequencies, the body’s innate self-healing is activated.
Beta Brain Mode is for the Outer Action Brain Mode –
Interface with the physical world. This is when your eyes are open and you are doing
Lower frequencies are optimal for the Inner Creative Brain
Mode – Interface with the Infinite world to improve the way you manage your
inner self and influence how your life becomes.
The most optimal mindset to have is to be relaxed and focused. Learn how to get there as needed.
The alpha brain mode range is the most effective range for creating the life and internal states of being that you desire to create. This is the brain frequency where you are usually sleeping. It just takes some re-training so that you learn to stay alert and focused while you are this relaxed mentally, physically, and energetically. Healing occurs below 14 Hz, especially below 7 Hz.
An interesting aspect of the way we are designed is that we have controls and switches to operate our body and mind. You will learn more of these throughout classes and/or sessions. The first one is that when you want to go to the alpha level (the change mode) to do something it is a matter of controlled breathing and mental direction. There are additional things that can be done to relax.
Benefits of using your alpha brain functioning, Your
Inner Power Center:
reprogram your brain to achieve what you desire
relax mind, body, and energy…on cue
develop your intuition/creative thoughts to be…on cue
visualize to initiate the Laws and Principles of Life to bring you what you want
gain creative thoughts
receive intuitive thoughts
get better ideas for a project or solution
become forward thinking
think for the long term
get out of the surface mind yo-yo
increase your intelligence with ongoing practice
detect things remotely
go to your past or future
increase your whole brain functioning
increased mental focus
Impress upon and Invoke the Intelligent Reciprocal Quantum Field with your Desires
What do you want to change? Internally? Externally?
A big reason I write this is because developing into someone who can send healing energies is available to anyone. I have observed myself and students having A Progression of Personal Development that seems unbelievable, if it was not reported so often . The link describes familiar inner development by people gaining mastery of their thoughts. The brain has so much more when we learn how to reprogram it specifically to help us be more effective, creative and manage our inner self.
We live in this physical world and our senses continuously confirm that to us anytime we are awake. As we develop and grow on this planet often we will begin to think that what we see, fell, taste, touch and hear is all that there is to life. That is a reason we get locked inside our life box…stuck in the haze of normality.
Many of us sense and believe that there is something more to life. It is unseen, yet somehow, something is there in the unseen. Then we listen to quantum physicists telling us that we, objects, nature, air, everything is quantum energy vibrating at varying frequencies. From this unseen force, visible life emerges. Food for thought.
If you are curious, this is a great place to start – the movie What the Bleep Do We Know. It is an integration of experts talking about how life works in the quantum world with a story being told with the oscar-winning actress Marlee Matlin. It is currently available on YouTube.
How can we know there is actually some power, some intelligence, some energy in the unseen?
Keep reading… I had
scientific verification of it.
One example is electricity. We do not see the current running through wires or waiting at our wall plugs. Yet, with complete certainty, we plug in a device and it receives this unseen force to power the device.
Do you ever doubt
What about this thing people talk about? They heard about an energy healer. What is that? Someone goes to a practitioner who claims to conduct energy. This subject has intrigued me since I met a Canadian healer in a hotel in Balikpapan, Indonesia; the island of Borneo. I was 23 years old.
Meeting my first healer
I had finished breakfast and went to the lobby to wait on the driver to go to work. While reading the International Herald Tribune this woman sat in the chair next to me. I had the strangest sensation. At the time I was still incredibly shy. LOL. My body started vibrating all over while I kept hearing ‘introduce yourself’. That repeated until I did. Turns out she is from Canada and was traveling the Indonesian islands to learn from elders and medicine men. She talked with me about it some and I felt a resonance with her words. Actually I had a medicine man from Eastern Java, Indonesia send herbs to my mom in Houston. It helped her. [future post] Fast forward more than two decades and my own energies started opening up.
That vibration and insistent voice were so wild. It pushed me to do something good for me. That is when I began to learn that the body’s intelligence is incredible. An internal unseen guidance can lead me correctly.
By 2007-8 I had done a lot of personal growth and studied metaphysical topics. Even though I was curious and teaching some, it did not squash my inner electrical engineer’s need for proof. Isn’t that where the saying “I’ll believe it when I see it” comes from. That is so true except if you are looking to manifest a change in life. Then I began to learn “I’ll see it when I believe it”. This is how to manifest change beginning within your own mind.
A part of your
personal progression when you learn mind mastery and some healing concepts,
your healing energy will get activated. Mine was beginning to activate and I
could feel it.
He stops his meds
Around this time we had moved my now ex-partner down from upstate New York. He had been taking a strong anti seizure medicine for 15+ years. We discussed him getting off of that after learning its toxicity. We went to a neurologist in Austin who told him that he needed to have a 24-hour sleep-deprived EEG that had no spikes on it.
For more than a year he had been using the brain neural programming methods from my trainings. He was already stopping migraines. These used to occur multiple times per week. He used the Student Study Skills to move from Dean’s academic probation to graduating with honors. This set of skills for focus, comprehending, and recalling is known to decrease study time, increase playtime while increasing grades. What I saw was him playing more games on the computer than studying once he was using them.
His appointment with the neurologist was Monday morning. I taught a class that weekend and he stayed awake Sunday night. We went to have the EEG done. When I teach neural reprogramming, a basic understanding of brain waves are involved – beta, alpha, theta, delta.
I asked the
technician if I could sit in and watch them live on the computer screen. I used
a chart but never had seen them live.
I sat 8-10 feet from his head where the electrodes were placed. The technician would whisper to me and show me that initially there were beta waves from a waking, eyes open state. Then he got tired and she showed me the alpha waves from when we start to fall asleep. Then the theta waves from a much deeper state of sleep. Next, she pointed out the delta waves from him going into the deepest of sleep. These are the phases we go into while falling asleep. Then in 90-minute cycles, we move amongst the alpha, theta, and delta phases of brain functioning.
Note: When you hear
‘healing’ it is not that a person heals you. No. It is when a person has
learned to conduct the natural healing energies through them into a person.
That year was a period when energies began to activate in my physical body. I had learned multiple techniques for sending healing energy for someone, remote or in person.
At that time, I
began to feel a vibration directly behind the back of my scalp, close to the
top of my head when this energy would turn on. My good friend, a healer I have
learned from, had told me that when I felt that, it was an indication that
someone needs the energy. Send it to the need.
Well, you can guess
what is about to happen 🙂
Verifying that human energy can be detected
Sitting in the EEG
room, I felt that vibration begin. I had the idea that I would relax and drop
my right arm down by my side and imagine it filling up with this healing
energy. I did that. Then I lifted my hands and pushed my palms forward towards
Andrew’s head to send the energy across the room to him. It was an idea that
Immediately, I saw
on the computer screen where all four wave types went to their maximum value
without spiking. Then they quickly dissipated in a smooth fashion back to the
normal waves. I noticed the technician circle that part of the printout.
Wow, I just confirmed that the unseen energies from my palms registered on electrodes 8-10 feet away. This engineer was happy. If the room didn’t feel like a closet, I wanted to do my happy dance.
A few minutes later,
the same vibration signal buzzed the top back of my scalp. I repeated what I
had done before. The four brain wave types again went full maximum without
spiking and modulated down back to normal. And the technician circled them on
the printout again.
Amazing. Again, the energies registered. Ultimate confirmation.
Uh oh, I thought. I
hope that is not misinterpreted as a spike that they do not want to see in
order for him to stop the medication.
So, the next time I
felt that vibration signal, I simply imagined the energy being sent over there
without pushing it, as I did before. Success. The brain waves did not change
An ecstatic engineer
I was in heaven, a
moment of awakening. Energy from a human, me, is real. There was a medical
verification using scientific equipment.
The rest of the
Once the doctor read
the EEG, in another appointment, Andrew was approved to stop taking the
medications immediately. Success!
When people plant bad seeds in your mind
Here is what the doctor said to him as we are leaving: “We know that this tends to come back once your into adulthood. I expect to see you within a year”.
As we walked out I
asked Andrew: Did you hear what he just said? ‘Yes’. Do you believe him? ‘No’.
Good. And that is what happened. He did not need them. His silent seizures
Later, I asked
Andrew what he did while lying on the table hooked up to the EEG electrodes.
When he was not napping he was visualizing the EEG results he wanted without
any spikes. He and I had been visualizing the same thing for a couple of
weeks…and that is what he manifested.
Your body is emitting energy all the time.
When Oprah was doing her talk show, one time she showed a sign right by the door to her office: “You are responsible for the energy you bring”. I kind of got it then but now I understand that energy is the current we are emitting in every situation in our life.
That made me wonder what energy I brought to classes, to clients, to friends, by myself, and other situations.
What do we make of this?
How can we use the
fact that we emit energy?
Do you sense your own energy? Other’s energy?
The energy I
purposely emitted was detected by a scientific instrument.
Based on this
verification, does it make you curious?
Within a year, I was being guided real-time in sessions. What an experience. P.E.A.C.E. Sessions
Folks this stuff
works…and it works in person and remotely. Hmm…
Use the Contact Form and tell me your energy experience or leave a comment or question.
In my quiet within, I have been sensing that it is time that I make this blog more personal to benefit those who are considering a life change or ten . What does it look like and how does it feel to experience change?
Since 2008, I have been blogging about life skills from different approaches, results people have, quotes, videos, and ponderings; some might say meanderings. LOL
of that is available in this blog…with the caveat that I had to restore this
blog and that backup file did not have the pics and links in all posts prior to
2020. As I can, I’ll go through some old posts to restore the links and pics.
All the info is still here. Search your curiosities about self-improvement. At the bottom of each page, Click a topic in the interest cloud or select a category.
As an engineer, I can easily do all the behind the scenes maintenance and make changes. But design!? What? Me? Opportunity: If you are drawn to what I write here and have blog design skills. Contact me. Let’s work something out.
Intent of sharing more personally
I intend to share how I felt during changes so you can relate. Share when I was limited. What were my fears? What I did to break through those limits. How it felt and what came to me when I was expanding in life. How I fell into lulls in life and how I navigated out of them. Hopefully, you will relate so that it empowers you, enlivens you, and inspires you to go for it.
I do this to be transparent in how I have used these multitudes of skills from several systems and their approaches to self-betterment.
The feedback I get
from students and clients, often, is that I am authentic. THAT is my goal at
the core of me. I cannot live my best life and accomplish my purpose while
hiding out. I cannot guide others from a false place. This life is so full of
potential, regardless of age.
What is that nudge
inside that you feel at times to make a change?
I invite comments, questions, and discussions.
“Wisdom comes from experience. experience is often a result of lack of wisdom.”
My come from
I do not like to be the person up on stage for visibility purposes. I have learned how to be comfortable so that I can speak and train others. And, I do stand on the stage built by my tears, revelations, hurts, mistakes, risks, forgiveness-es, learnings, lessons, joys, loves, passions, adventures, manifesting, coming out, accepting me, and accepting the Vision I have received as my To Do in life.
All of that plus what I am still pondering because of a great friend, J.M., who is my muse for viewing, connecting, changing, and working with the quantum energy that is vibrating within us, as us. Some new ideas are floating around in my head on how to direct this for our good.
Let’s get down to it
We can learn theory
all day long but it doesn’t mean a thing until the rubber meets the road; until
we practice it. The very process of experimenting with new skills helps to
develop life skills in a way that works for you.
I tell clients and students to not believe what I say and present. Life is an experiment. Try it out and see what happens in life. Change a thought and watch the result. Modify and repeat. Through your experiences with these ideas, you will develop the beliefs that work for you and where you are going in life. Along the way, you are empowered with new life skills. It is a win-win situation.
Nothing in our life,
externally or internally, changes without us first becoming aware that we can
actually change. Then we begin. This can be simple. And it can feel
insurmountable. It will seem less so once the choice is made to make a change
You are just one new thought away from having what you want and being who you desire to be.
I really like this version by Siedah Garrett who wrote Man in the Mirror for Michael Jackson. She sang it at the Agape International Spiritual Center AgapeLive.com the Sunday after he died. So Beautiful
What is your inspiration? Where do you feel it in your
I am so grateful for
the thing within my spirit that came to this planet to make personal changes;
not just accept what is. Thankfully. I heard a very clear message at 6 years
old during a violent event in the household. I was holding myself, on the floor,
in the corner, door closed, crying. Shaking. Frightened. Alone.
I then heard a voice
say: “Lamar. Don’t worry about this. You are going to learn how to do life
better.” It was a thought that had the volume turned up loud enough inside
me so that I would hear it. Listen. And heed it. Plus, it came with an overwhelming
sense of peace and calm. That was not the energy I had felt in life until that
moment. With these good feelings that swept over me, that goal/directive was
planted within me. That voice has guided me in important moments in life. That
is my inspiration and push to keep going.
We are all living in a Feeling Universe. Feelings with ideas register in our system. Ideas alone stay as untapped potential until an emotion fuels it into becoming.
memorable (re)defining moment* began in the last semester of
college. It was a great time for jobs and it was fun to have so many options. I
used my electrical engineering degree to take the job with a French company
that said I would be anywhere in the world except North America. Not knowing what
country I would end up in kind of excited me. After discussion with others, I
happily said ‘yes’ to the job with Schlumberger International. Luckily, they
placed me in the Far East.
me, I was taking the proverbial leap off a familiar cliff and learning that I
could fly. I could now be the adventurous person my dreams had shown me…and my
Sagittarius horoscope says I am. LOL
I was standing on the edge of a precipice and strongly desired changes were at my fingertips. My imagination saw it while looking in the abyss full of potential. I reassured myself: I earned this opportunity with my degree. Then, the realization that for much of my life I had felt on that edge desiring change but held back. That old familiar feeling of being suppressed was a strong energy that pulled me to stay where I was. Like a gravitational pull.
This is how the ego works to prevent us from changing. My ego knew how to balance my set of my pains, limitations, dreams, thoughts, failures, successes, etc. It would have to rebalance itself and fights to do so. This is why we get an idea, then suddenly we hear thoughts and feel feelings that keep us in check. It is a tricky aspect of our consciousness.
Commit to change while being mindful of how the ego is going to attempt to stop you. Everytime a self-limiting thought or feeling pops up, re-choose your change. Do it again. Then again. Keep re-focusing. At some point the ego gets it. This is going to happen.
You have proven to yourself that this is important. You have begun the process of taming your ego. It has its uses but change is not one of them. Remain focused because the only way it will not happen is if you give up or let it go.
change causes emotional change…
All changes you make in life involve changes in some emotion(s). Of course, being from an alcoholic family and growing up in a small town with its restrictive expectations, I could not show these emotions. They leaked out with my best friend or my mom, at times. It does not mean my emotions were not happening. I was just well trained in not showing it or discussing it. Macho. Machismo since that is all I learned from male role models. A lesson later unlearned.
I had a mix of emotions and thoughts. Fear and excitement of adventure, new
wonders, grief of leaving, nerves wondering what country, will I know enough, will
I enjoy it, is this a bad or good decision plus the gravitational pull to stay
in the familiar box of life. Oh, how much I wanted to take this job.
biggest heartfelt concern was that my mom had been in a wheelchair for 2+ years
and was divorced living in an old farmhouse in the middle of 126 acres in
southeast Texas; population 150. I felt guilty thinking only of my dreams.
Since a doctor had told me 3 years prior “your mom is going to die”,
I was especially feeling conflicted; she was 1 in 20 women who got well from
the new treatment but ended up in a wheelchair.
continuously reassured me and told me I had to take it. She had help and would
If it were not for mom I would be working with my ‘broken’ dad in his Interstate 10 gas stations and wrecker service. He did not want me to go to college. Leaving to go to campus for the first time, he told me that he did not want me to go. I said I was going. He abruptly stopped paying for it the day I transferred from Lamar University in Beaumont to Texas A&M University in College Station. My mom sacrificed for my tuition. Then I got a few part-time jobs.
She had never mentioned my education without saying it does not end until I have my Bachelor of Science degree. She sacrificed in many ways for me to get my degree. She was also the source for inspiration at times; much needed. She gave me two books when I was in high school that spurred my thoughts that I could live a better life. Wayne Dyer’s The Sky’s the Limit and Dr. Maxwell Schultz’s Psycho Cybernetics. Books that altered the way I interacted with my thoughts and had me reconsider my place in life.
Whether or not to take this international job was clear within me. It felt like my soul was screaming at me YES while pushing me to just do it. All my engineering friends thought I was crazy. It felt like I could not ‘not’ take this job.
To me, that has become a Life Sign from my soul that I have to follow now. We always have free will to choose and sometimes the choice that suits us is so obvious that it feels like we do not have a choice.
Have you ever been there? Felt that?
To me, that is when my soul is finding the mothership, the Presence that knows my best life. Following that makes life easier. I am to follow the Lead and in its wakes, the path is clearer.
I had spent my youth since fourth grade on our farmland in tiny village, Texas. I chased cows, ran from snakes, rode horses for a while, shot the 22 rifle to scare the varments from eating our melons in the garden, shot tin cans off fence posts, played with dogs and cats, drove my go-cart across the pastures (once hitting a red ant bed. Their bites hurt). My best friend and I shot bottle rockets at each other. One of us in the barn. The other away on the shell road. I’m glad we did not burn down the old barn that leaned to its left a bit too much 🙂 Eddie and I would sit at the edge of the dynamite hole (a pond created by great uncles with a case of dynamite). We talked and dreamed like kids do.
My parents commuted to Houston for work. So, I was entertained by nature and sometimes a friend from miles away would be over. I remember watching every plane that flew over (that wasn’t a crop duster) and dreamed of being on them; working and living. I had only been out of Texas twice; Ruidoso, New Mexico and Monterey, Mexico. That last one was a Spanish class field trip on an un-air-conditioned school bus in the hot summer. We bounced all the way there and back 😉
I accepted that job offer with Schlumberger International.
believe that what overcame the fears and old gravitational pull was the energy
from youthful exuberance where mountains are surmountable + the focus on the
prize + the dreams as a child of flying globally + emotional support. Note: As we
get older there are ways to harness this sort of energy and focus. Too much to
put in this post.
I had earned this and that felt great. And, then, this daydreaming of flying on planes from childhood was coming true. I did not know that’s how life works.
Dream it to achieve it.
my first day of employment, my best friend since fourth grade, Eddie, picked me
up to take me to the Houston airport. I could not stop crying leaving home, and
my mom, Tuffy my dog, and what I knew. Then we talked on the drive and I cried
a little more when I got out of Eddie’s car at the Houston airport. Whew, how
life changed showing me how much I loved them through my tears.
I sat on the plane headed for Singapore via Los Angeles. My god. Singapore. As soon as I felt the power around me revving to take off I was gloriously filled with excitement, anticipation and appreciation. The huge smile on my face was matched by the huge smile in my heart. That was when I began to feel free. I was going 20+ hours on a plane to a foreign land. Awesome! Plus I am really happy that my stomach was okay flying. My only childhood plane ride was across Texas. The stewardess got mad at me and my mom for me not using the barf bag.
We, the new crop of electrical engineers and physicists, trained in Singapore for a while. I found it so incredibly exhilarating that all these guys came from different countries. Wow. Befriending those from Nigeria, Japan, Switzerland, England, France, Australia, others. That sort of thing always opened me up in some new way. In training, we learned how to put out fires and how to drive in bad road conditions. I remember being told: If you do not wear your seat belt while with the company, you will be fired. So, at age 23 I began that safety habit.
Walking with these new friends was so much fun. Singapore has a reputation of being extremely clean. It is. They still have a law banning chewing gum so it does not end up on the sidewalk.
onto my first trip to Indonesia
I flew to my first assignment in Indonesia arriving at the Balikpapan airport. Interesting pilot maneuver of dropping straight down from a mountain into the airport in the valley. It was a BIG roller coaster drop flying into that city. Balikpapan is the capitol of the state of Kalimantan.
Customs? is in that shack? Hmm. This is going to be interesting
Since I had been at Texas A&M and liked to dance, I had learned country and western dancing, aka kicker dancing. That was the big warehouse dance place we called the Hall of Shame. At Lamar University, we disco danced. Yep, that dates me.
I arrive at this customs building that was a two-room shack, raised up on blocks. Where there should be windows and doors, there were none. I am 6′ 4″ wearing my cowboy hat, western boots and a belt with my name on the back. Considering the average height there, I was very tall in this outfit. I do not think I wore that outfit again. I replaced cowboy boots with hard work boots. I replaced my cowboy hat with a work hard hat.
With this, I got nervous but it was okay. This is their way of doing customs. I was in this for the adventure and new experiences. It’s full-on now, dude.
Fortunately, on the plane an experienced expatriate had me re-fill in my customs form. He said just write ‘personal items’ and ‘no value’. Otherwise, they will take some money or some items or both if I declared a value. Hmm. I now know I have entered a strange land. Such excitement in me.
Seeing the first military dressed customs officer was interesting and puzzling. He looked at my customs form and at my cowboy hat. He opened my suitcases and then motioned for me to give him my cowboy hat. I did not know better, so multiple times I said ‘no’ and shook my head ‘no’. I was able to walk away wearing it.
Walking out of there with my belongings, a lot of children wanted to help. I tried to quickly calculate the dollar to the rupiah exchange rate. I think I gave a huge tip because I did not know how many rupiahs to give. This was my first experience of local children in a third world country. It was a shock to see the conditions and their almost lusting for money or food. They had to. My heart felt it.
I was driven to the Western hotel where expats stayed; western, as in developed countries. I wanted to walk so another expat and I explored some. Dirt streets. Vans with loudspeakers driving the streets. A language that was so foreign. Yippee!
This place to eat was interesting, so to speak. Doors open. Some flies. We sat down at one of the picnic bench tables. Hold on… this is a new experience: The waiter went to the window display of food. He picked up that room temperature food and sat it on our table. Hmm. We talked some then ate it. We figured if this is what they do, then why not. I am fortunate my stomach agreed it was okay. We were charged by the estimated amount of food we ate. Though, from then on I ate at the restaurant in the motel.
Expatriates camp in the jungles
The next morning I got into a helicopter for an exciting 45-minute ride into the jungle. The pilot flew in the Vietnam war. He asked us if it was okay for a more exciting flight. Of course, yes. He dropped down quickly to fly above the mostly un-driveable road between the forest of trees. Yep, it was exciting. My first helicopter ride. My second foreign country. The beauty. The third world-ness. The friendliness of the locals. All of it was fulfilling my long held need to see other lands.
We landed in a camp for working expatriates near the Mahakam River Delta on this island of Borneo. Talk about new experiences.
I learned that it is valuable (sometimes, a must) to stretch myself, thus my life. I learned I could thoroughly enjoy life through new experiences. I could manage some fears that came up. I was enough to do the job well. I met a multitude of people from other countries, new cultures, new ideas. Plus the beauty of eye and heart pleasing vistas that no words can describe. Flying… Mind and Heart are expanding.
What did you do in early adulthood that stretched you? Was it fearful? Then exciting? Or something else?
How is an inkling of a dream nudging you these days? Is there a way to nourish it?
You do not have to jump in recklessly. Set it as a goal and get curious about what this means to you. The energy of curiosity will bring new ideas to you from your intuition, hearing it from someone, noticing a news article or whatever way it can reach you.
Enjoy Life, Lamar
*(re)define is from the book: Your (re)Defining Moments: Becoming Who You Were Born to Be Author Dennis Merritt Jones; his Amazon page
I am finishing up a zoom class about this book. It has been a new perspective on perceiving, processing and propelling personal growth.
To create something takes 3 easy steps, 1 of which is NOT YOUR JOB!
Step 1. Craft in words what you desire in life whether it is external or internal as if it is already done. Add an emotion to fuel it. “I am thrilled to have this new job paying me $xx.” “I love living in this welcoming, safe and productive home.”
Step 2. Not your job
Step 3. Maintain a state of joy and gratitude. This is the state of receiving.
To provide credit where it’s due, I learned this from Abraham, the teacher
To grasp this concept and practice it is to direct your own life.
What you place your attention on, the Life Force goes and grows more of that.
Do you focus more on your perceived problems more than you focus on your goals?
Whichever… it’s a choice. This Force does not have an opinion. It simply amplifies.
Think of a magnifying glass amplifying the natural sun’s light.
Thus it is important you get clear on what you choose in life.
Step 1. Write out what you want to manifest in a short statement that excites you when you read it. Then craft it to be as if it’s already done.
And finally, add fuel to power it. This is what e-motions do. Your e-motions are energies in motion coursing throughout you. Your thoughts are dry and cannot manifest without fuel.
What good feeling emotion will you have when this is on your life? That’s the e-motion to include in your statement.
Step 2. NOT YOUR JOB
Most people learn to look at the goal and logically figure out how to go about getting it. That works using your logical brain functioning…
…and what about your intuitive brain functioning?
Your logic is based only on what you have already learned in this life; it is incapable of having a new thought. ONLY your intuitive mind receives new thoughts and ideas. Thus using your logic to obtain a goal guarantees you will do it the same way as you always have. And if you have never manifested this goal then your logic doesn’t know how. This is when most people give up by saying ‘I can’t do that. I can’t have that.’ Thus another dream dies and we lose that part of us.
But consider this. Your intuition knows other ways to achieve it. How great would it be to simply focus on your statement throughout the day and allow your intuition to guide you to it.
Yes, it sounds strange. As an engineer I’ve settled it in my mind by realizing we have a Whole Brain that consists of the left hemisphere doing the logical functions WITH the right hemisphere connecting us to our potential in life.
What I’m saying is: Do not figure it out. Do not try to figure out how to achieve it.
Here is what I do. Wonder what opportunity is going to pop up or what new idea that will pop into my mind that I can follow.
Step 3. Think about this. What goal have you achieved when you’re feeling dejected and incapable? Hardly any, right?
So giving gratitude for what you have and enjoy builds good feelings. This leads to feeling joy.
This is the state of receiving when using this manner of manifestation.
Example: I was teaching part 1 of my brain neural programming class to a group of hypnotists outside Boerne, Texas. We got to this manifestation part and how they could use their intuition which I had just trained their brain to use more often and on call. I was saying you could get a new car by going to the bank, getting preapproved and finding the car.
Or, I know a healer friend that when he needs a new car someone will buy themself a new car and give this man their old car.
Or people win a car.
Or… there are an infinite number of ways to achieve what you desire once you start to use your intuition.
I went to lunch with this lady hypnotist from class in her new Lexus SUV; nice car. She told me how she got this car. She had been eyeing a Lexus SUV but did not have enough down payment $$ to get the monthly payment affordable. She went to lunch regularly with a group of her girlfriends and had been telling them about her desire to have this vehicle. After one lunch one of the ladies walked out with her and said that she and her husband just had a bank CD payout. She wanted to give her what she needed for the down payment. My student was shocked… and accepted the offer. Thus she got the car she had been focusing upon.
That’s an unexpected way she manifested her Lexus SUV.
The fun part about manifesting using your intuition is the almost miraculous stories you get to tell your friends.
And this was not a miracle. This is a way you can use your intuition to manifest.
The first few times be sure to NOT choose something that you’ve struggled to manifest for a long time. Set yourself up for success. Use this method a few times THEN go for the gusto.
One last thing, keep focusing on it and look for opportunities until it happens. The only way it won’t happen is if you give up.
Hi. It is great to have access to my blog again. There’s lots to share.
I have restored this blog, am making some changes to it (and me) and wrapping my head around many life changes and challenges over the last one and a half to two years.
Since I began this nearly 10 years ago it’s been titled Curious Mind News. That has changed to A Moments Wisdom at www.aMomentsWisdom.com.
Pleasenote: All posts below this one do not have images, videos and most links until I correct them. And the information is silk there.
My intent with this blog is to Uplift You to Live an Empowered Life. Hopefully I invoke your curiosity that opens your mind and heart to see and feel the potential that lies within you. Then provide the info, examples and how to guide for you to practice it.
As I tell clients and students: Do not blindly believe these new ideas just because I say them. Use them as an experiment. Seed what results you have then you will have your own beliefs about using them.
Contact me with questions and examples. Feel free to comment on my posts.
We all are challenged by the Loving Intelligence of life since life always happens FOR US; never TO US. Fortunately, this design of life allows us to tweak and change so that we get better and better at becoming who we are born to be.
All posts below this one are without images since the backup file lost them.
All posts above this one come from my intent to Uplift You, to provide resources, ideas and practices so that you also live a fulfilling successful life… your destiny.
Please engage me, ask questions, challenge me.
The first thing I tell students and clients is: Do not blindly accept what I present. Consider it an experiment. Use it and see how your life results are. Then adopt your own beliefs.
Your Imagination is Your Way Out of a Limited Life Box
Everyone goes through phases where something in life is too rote or not working anymore or it is just time for that change. The more a person evolves in this lifetime, the more a person has to grow out of limiting life boxes.
The challenge is that people tend to linger on what is not working. Neuroscientists say that the brain is designed to learn a habit and stick with it. It is in our brain’s wiring, i.e. neural programming. One loud NO registers immediately and the brain changes. It takes several strong YES’s to register in the brain.
The great news is that consciousness supersedes habitual programming. It just takes knowing how.
Proper use of consciousness leads us out of stuck-ness
Every single thing we have done in life involves imagining it first. It is such an automatic process that we may not be aware of it. And it is our saving grace in life. The imagination creates the life framework to change and, done at the right brain frequency, reprograms the heart and brain neurons so that we can accomplish a desired change in life.
So, have your pity party 🙂 It is a part of the process…and oh my, I have had mine for way too long. At some point we are recreating the same thing over and over. When we only use our logical mind it is so focused on the past that it is recreating it for the future, over and over. Life becomes a continuous groundhog day, as in the movie.
Until we declare STOP the madness!
Make the shift:
Pause your normal thoughts.
Focus on deep breathing for a few moments. Breathe in through your nose being mindful of the air flow coming in. Hold it to the count of three. Exhale through the mouth noticing the flow of air coming up from your lungs, out your mouth. Do this a few times.
The more you focus on this flow of air, the more you remove the energy from those incessant thoughts and shift into your inner center where all real power comes forth.
That begins the shift.
Focus your attention onto what you desire, as if you have it, and let the energy that was fueling the old thoughts bring life to what you desire.
This shifts you onto your new chosen path.
Rinse and repeat. Do this process daily or even multiple times each day. This tells yourself that ‘I am making this change’. And you are telling Life, the Universe, what you desire instead. Stick with it to observe new ideas, opportunities and more come to you.
I hope this helps begin your process of change. Have patience and be willing to do something new to see the results you have in life.
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Someone asks you if you want to go skydiving. You reply quickly ‘I can’t imagine doing that’.
Or, do you want to expand into a bigger or nicer home. “I can’t imagine that.”
Someone describes their life of abundance. You think to yourself “I can’t imagine that for me’.
It is a good practice to start noticing your automatic replies to things. Wonder if maybe it’s just not for you or maybe it’s an unconscious limit showing itself to be re-looked at to see if that stills applies to who you are now.
These are declarative statements we sometimes make when something seems too big, too outside the box, too much abundance or too (whatever). And sometimes we just do not have interest or curiosity. That’s valid when it truly applies.
The truth is people say these things without conscious thought. Wherever they were adopted from, they are showing you and others your limits. Recognize that some limits are necessary and some just stop us from growing. If you don’t catch your self or have a friend notice what you say, then you may be giving clues as to why you are not able to change, be who you choose to be or not achieve your goals.
Is it time to challenge your old ways?
What are those automatic thoughts that stop you from who you want to be?
We are so much more powerful than we ever give ourselves credit for. There is a way to use our brain, as it is designed, to make changes within ourselves and in our experiences of life.
Cognitive therapists talk about how our brain is designed to use both cognitive and intuitive functioning. The approaches I have learned activate the mostly unknown truth that we can also use our intuitive functioning just as easily as we use our logic. It provides immeasurable benefits.
It just takes the right training.
I first learned how to use Left/Right Brain Integration Skills at age 24. It has empowered me in ways that my students now experience; below. The fantastic news is that once we use these skills our life opens up and we can continue to expand out of any small life box in which we find ourselves.
Here is a progression of personal development reported to me by a student this year
My dreams for my future have expanded.
I am more grounded now
Doesn’t get pulled off center as easily as before
Manage my emotions better
Has set better boundaries with others
Picks up on other people’s feelings
Does not get drained by others
Someone close to me is changing in good ways
From my own experience and reports from others, these are natural progressions which occur for everyone who learns and uses it.
These skills can be learned in class and in private sessions. The private sessions allow you to learn the ones that apply to your immediate life needs.